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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 15:29 PM   1
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Anyone just had a baby and WTT, NTNP, or TTC?


Our amazing son was born just over 2 weeks ago on Valentine's Day, and he is just the love of our lives!

I can't believe I am thinking about this already when he is so young, but DH wants to start TTC again very soon. He is 11 years older than I am and he doesn't want to wait much longer to add to our family. We were blessed with our son because he is such a great baby, but I am so afraid I won't be as lucky with #2. Also nervous because DH works out of town and is gone 4-6 days per week, so I would pretty much be by myself with two babies close together in age. Then there is the fact that I had SUCH a difficult pregnancy, I had several complications and was hospitalized multiple times. I know that no two pregnancies are alike, and chances are I wouldn't have those issues again, but it's still in the back of my mind.

Right now DH knows it's out of the question to even DTD as I had two major tears and an epi with DS, and I plan to wait the full 6 weeks to even THINK of him going anywhere near that area!!!!!!!!! However, I know he isn't going to want to use any form of BC when we do go back to being intimate, so I guess we will end up NTNP. I am also exclusively breastfeeding, which I know keeps some women from ovulating at all. I do want two close together, but I also want to be able to enjoy our son!!!

Any other ladies in similar situations? Am I crazy for even considering having two so close in age????????????



 
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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 15:36 PM   2
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I am WTT at the moment. I would like my kids to be close in age but I want to wait 12 months at least to give my body time to heal and get back to normal. I am also EBF and haven't begun ovulating (to my knowledge). I am the one wanting them close hubby is still on the fence. We both have sibling close in age and we would like the same thing if possible.

But like you mentioned we are going to discuss it closer t that time because two babies can be a lot to handle and he may not be around all the time because of his current job. I have friends who did the close together and far apart so they have both provided pros and cons.. it just depends and no one way is perfect.



 
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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 15:41 PM   3
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Yes I'm getting the same. Some people act like I have lost my mind and advise that I wait AT LEAST two years. Others are very supportive and tell me that having them close in age is so much easier than having them further apart. I am torn at this point, but really I would prefer waiting a minimum of 6 months. I do understand where DH is coming from, but he's not the one who has to be pregnant again!!!!! LOL



 
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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 15:48 PM   4
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Congrats on your Valentine's baby

I've yet to be pregnant so I can't speak from experience, but if it were me I would wait a few months before even considering NTNP or TTC. I would wait at least 6 months so that you have time for your body to rest up from the difficult pregnancy & birth and your LO will be a little bit older.



 
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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 16:02 PM   5
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2 weeks is still quite early to know what kind of baby you have, DS slept fine till 4 months then was a nightmare lol. But just to warn you doctors advise at least 12 months between pregnancies, BF suppresses ovulation and this is nature's way of protecting women from pregnancy too soon so it's just worth thinking about.



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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 16:32 PM   6
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Marine, I sure hope he doesn't do that! LOL I know it's still early but I am keeping my fingers crossed that he won't change!!!!!!

Thanks for the advice ladies!



 
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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 16:37 PM   7
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Marine, I sure hope he doesn't do that! LOL I know it's still early but I am keeping my fingers crossed that he won't change!!!!!!

Thanks for the advice ladies!
Lol sorry I don't want to be one of 'those' mums trying to put you off, but just to warn you. He must be a good baby if he's making you broody already, I'm still nervous 2 years and 5 months later haha!



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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 21:47 PM   8
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My DS is almost 6 months and even with all of his challenges so far (preemie, allergies, GERD) he is still the greatest blessing. I also had a hard pregnancy and recovery. As much as I'd love another one right away, I also want some time to just enjoy him (the time FLIES by so quickly). I do want to give my body a chance to recuperate as well. I'm not using any birth control but being pretty careful with timing. I'm hoping to wait until my DS is about a year to become pregnant again.



 
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Old Mar 1st, 2013, 23:39 PM   9
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I'm with you girl. Thinking NTNP tonight and TTC next month. Wasn't sure at first, thought about waiting until September... But, now its a go!

I'm crazy and I don't care. We are just going to see what happens. And we are anxious to have our family completed. I really don't care what people will think or say. And I'm sure some will have thier unwelcomed opinions.

I have DD #1 whom is 22 months old. Started trying for #2 when she was 5 months (took 8 months with a loss). And DD #2 is 6 weeks old. I haven't had first AF and she isn't sleeping through the night...



 
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Old Mar 2nd, 2013, 12:15 PM   10
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Ah Leinz, glad I'm not the only one even considering it! Even if he wasn't a good baby (so far) I would still feel the same way. I am like you, just anxious to complete our family (not quite as anxious as DH, but I do really want the first two close together). I also don't particularly care what people will say, LOL. My mom thinks I am absolutely insane for thinking about another after such a difficult pregnancy and THIS soon after delivery. TBH I was thinking about it DURING my pregnancy lol.



 
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