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Old Mar 3rd, 2013, 21:04 PM   1
youngone
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What age do MEN start wanting kids??


In your experience (from friends, partners, brothers etc) what age do men start actively wanting children? as in thinking, talking planning or just agreeing to starting a family.

I'm extremely curious- because I know women would likely be a lot younger when they want them- but I always got the feeling that men sort of 'wait till the last minute', or even just wait till it happens (unplanned) and its out of their control Most men i've known don't even start thinking about it until their 30's.

I know many women who want to be youngish mums (21-26yrs) but no men except my OH. He's 22, and he wants one in the next few years- he'd let me start now if I wanted, but I feel like he is the exception??? (or is it that it isn't socially acceptable for men to admit they want to be young dads, so you don't hear about them?)

What age would your OH's have liked to start a family? (say for arguments sake that you were in the perfect situation, therefore not hindered by your circumstances)



...would just be interesting to know- your input is appreciated



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2013, 21:13 PM   2
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My husband was 23 when we finally decided it was the right time. At that point, I chose to wait a little longer than he wants to, because he is completing his active duty military service leaving us without jobs and insurance and whatnot, not to mention a move. I had been ready at 21 when we got married. We will probably be 24 or 25 when we have our first.



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2013, 21:17 PM   3
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My husband was 23 when we finally decided it was the right time. At that point, I chose to wait a little longer than he wants to, because he is completing his active duty military service leaving us without jobs and insurance and whatnot, not to mention a move. I had been ready at 21 when we got married. We will probably be 24 or 25 when we have our first.
Thats good then! I guess my OH is not so strange after all. I wondered if he really did want one or if he was saying that to make me happy and connect with me- because I couldn't believe at 22 he would be so willing.

Thanks a lot of your reply



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2013, 05:34 AM   4
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When Rob and I originally talked about this he said he didn't want any til he was 30, I didn't want to start my family that late so was always a bit of a taboo subject in our house! But our little surprise came along 6 yrs early which was actually a few years too early for me too! But obviously now we couldn't be happier with our little man x



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2013, 07:42 AM   5
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My dh was very young, he wanted babies in his early 20's. Since I had to finish school, it gave him a few years, then he strangely decided he didn't want them at all! Obviously he changed guys mind again...Lol I think it varies from person to person, depending in how they "see" their family.



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2013, 08:00 AM   6
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When do men start wanting to try for a baby?


My boyfriend has told me that he wants to wait until next year when we have our own flat and we have qualified in our college, the case with me is that I would like to try now, and I know I am only 23 in September but I would rather start trying now while I'm young than later in life as I start to get older. Feel free to give me some advice ladies.



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2013, 08:19 AM   7
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It depends I guess!! In my experience men don't tend to think about it much before hand. DS was unplanned but DH was very excited, beforehand he didn't even like talking about it, I can't imagine how long it would have taken if we had to actively choose when to TTC#1!



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Old Mar 4th, 2013, 08:27 AM   8
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He wanted to start a year ago, so about 6 months before he turned 26. He also knew it would be awhile yet so honestly I don't think he was really ready until these last couple of months- so age 26/27 for my OH.



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2013, 09:15 AM   9
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My OH wanted mid to late 20s. He's just turned 28 so hopefully he'll be 29 when we have our lo (my daughter isn't his bio daughter)
However, his brother had his first baby (she was planned!) at 21 so it varies massively



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2013, 09:33 AM   10
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My OH wants to wait until after we're married (which I do too, though he doesn't want to marry until he is 30!) so I guess probably 30 or so.



 
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