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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 13:12 PM   1
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Why do people say these things?


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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 13:52 PM   2
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Some people are stupid ignorant eijets!! (I'd put something stronger worded if I could!)
My sister has been unable to carry a baby but has 2 wonderful adopted kids and I defy anyone to say that she can't love them the way a biological mother would!! 😡
I understand love for family/partner is different to that which you have for your own child but to say what she posted is disgraceful (not to mention her grammar and spelling!)



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 14:03 PM   3
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I'm on the fence with this, i totally 200% do not agree with her behaviour! In fact I think it's disgusting, and I'm not agreeing with her sentiment on the subject, but for me personally I didn't know love until I had my daughter. That said its not something I ever say to people in conversation, it's a feeling more than a statement if that makes sense?

Does this girl know the social worker can't have children?



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 14:06 PM   4
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I wouldn't even waste my time feeling offended by what she said, it doesn't sound like she is in any state to comment on anything remotely related to parenting.

The love she is talking about is between a mother and child (or a father). I don't think it matters whether you biologically carried that child, their age or anything, if they are your child they are your child and that love is there no matter what. Just my personal opinion though.



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 14:09 PM   5
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I personally try to avoid commenting on people like that status'. They never go down well at all.
A woman who can't look after her own children properly is never going to symphysise with those who are lttc. It will always b a loosing battle.
Me no I would and have never said anything close to that. I tend to avoid the whole "wait till h have kids" statement to the backseat non parents.



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 16:58 PM   6
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I wouldn't take those Facebook pictures/memes to heart. I think they're more expressing the love many women feel from the moment they get that bfp. But I know my friend felt that rush of love the moment she got confirmation and a date that they'd be taking her adopted daughter home (as a couple they couldn't have kids). There is no way she loves her adopted daughter any less than I love my little girl.

One thing I can say though is that I didn't realise the intensity of unconditional love for a child before I had DD. I love my family, my nieces and nephews unconditionally, but when DD was born it was an intense level of love that I didn't even know existed. (Not sure how much that makes sense).

I would just ignore people like her to be honest. For spelling and grammar like that I think I'd have had to have deleted her a long time ago!!



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 19:44 PM   7
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I think a more accurate and less offensive expression would be "You don't know what love is until you become a parent" essentially meaning becoming a parent by any means whether you have a child naturally, hire a surrogate, adopt, or foster. Hypocrisy pisses me off and this girl you mention certainly is a hypocrite. Excuse me, but if you abandon your children to fend for themselves without a proper sitter so that you can go party on a regular basis (or even on a non-regular basis without a proper sitter!) then you clearly still don't know what love is even though you've "pushed a baby out".

That being said, to answer your question however, I think a lot of people believe that you don't know what love is until you push a baby out is because they themselves never knew that they could love someone so much until they pushed a baby out. That's not to say that women that adopt, foster, or hire surrogates don't feel the same way when they meet their child for the first time. Becoming a parent is a wonderful and special feeling no matter the circumstance in which it happened under.



 
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