View Poll Results: People say i'm too young to have a child, what do you think?
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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 11:36 AM   11
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I was a young mum at 22 but I did A LOT of growing up from 17 to 22. I don't necessarily think it's too young to be a mum I think any woman has the capability of being a good mum if it happens, but I think your relationship would be at a disadvantage. You've just married, I can't imagine you have been independent for terribly long, I would enjoy the time you have with your husband, do the things you can't do with children, this will give you the strongest grounding for when you do have children. I have been with my husband since we were 17, I can't imagine being young and having a baby with only being together a short time, and even if a couple have been together since the early teens it's different being in a relationship as a teenager and then as an adult.

This will sound patronising and I don't mean it to be as it will differ person to person, but I think 17 is too young to make such a monumental life changing decision, the years between teenager and young adult are normally quite defining and I can't say I have many of the values, opinions and wants now at 26 that I did at 17, but thankfully I didnt have to make any drastic decisions back then apart from what uni to go to, which would have been easily reversed if I changed my mind!



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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 11:37 AM   12
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sorry for hijacking the thread but ANGIEPIE, YOU'RE PREGNANT?!? CONGRATS!

As someone who got married young (19) I can honestly say the best thing I did was wait to get pregnant. I'm 28 now and I've changed so much. There are so many experiences that me and DH got to do..that we would have had to miss out on had we started a family right away. It seems like you're at least weighing the pros and cons which is great..but seriously...enjoy this childless time while you can, cause once you cross that bridge into parenthood there is no going back.
Aww wow you're pregnant too, congratulations



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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 11:40 AM   13
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I didn't realize I had to be 18, I didn't think it would matter that I've been emancipated for some time, but it's okay, thanks for letting me know! I've known my husband for about two years, and trust me I do realize I am too young and not ready for a child yet, but I am here for constructive criticism I'm not planning on having a baby until 2016, when I know we will have a ton of money to put towards the baby. But that is the earliest year i'm planning on, so it will probably be later than that. Every woman in my family gets cancer and dies, usually in their early forties, so I just want the chance to have a baby and spend a long time with my family before anything were to happen. Thanks to everyone for your opinions.



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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 11:47 AM   14
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Well, I have been on my own since I was 14, emancipated taking care of myself. I understand all your reasons. I know a baby would be life changing, I never had much of a childhood. I grew up too fast, being alone. I raised my niece for the first year of her life, yeah it was hard, but it was lovely. The only thing missing was the connection. She isn't my daughter, just my niece, she always made me want a daughter of my own even more. Being a mother sounds exhilarating. I've experienced some here and there. I can't wait to be a mommy. But I am, just for my body and mind to mature a little more, and spend some time with my husband instead of trying to do it with a child first.



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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 12:07 PM   15
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I met my OH when I was 18, we started trying for a baby 2 months later! Luckily I didn't get caught for another 9 months as we really needed that time to get to know each other, I would say enjoy your newly married status for a while, have a holiday, go on lots of dates together, and just be with each other.



 
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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 16:42 PM   16
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I know how you feel, sweetheart! I'm 23 and doubting whether I should try myself but then again everyone's situation is different. I guess if you talk to your husband and see where you guys are and when it would be ideal to bring a baby into the picture, you'll feel better by at least having a plan. Make sure you guys are on the same page about it though. I would say that's the most important thing

Good luck to you!



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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 16:55 PM   17
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thank you! and good luck to you too!



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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 17:09 PM   18
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I met my OH when I was 18 and we were together 4 years, living together 3 years, before ttc. I gave birth to our daughter 3 days before the anniversary of us being together 5 years (we're not married yet, hopefully soon!!). Before that, I wasn't ready. I have grown up so much in those short years, we both graduated university into good careers and bought a house. It also gave us time to be a couple. We had a couple of amazing holidays that we couldn't have had if we'd had children younger.

I'm glad we had that time just the 2 of us before starting a family. You will know when the timing's right for you and your husband, just enjoy each other as a couple until you're ready to expand your family



 
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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 17:13 PM   19
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Hi sweetie! I'm Maeghan, 21 and I had my first son at 17, while he wasn't planned and my (now fiance) and I were together at that time for 3 years it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Things do get tough and everyday is not a walk in the park but if you and your husband take the time out to love each other first and make sure you two are content and stable with each other, this baby will come up in an amazing environment. As a mother, you want to give your child the best, don't rush things dear, just make sure when it happens you're ready. Take time to think, which is something a lot of people say 17 year olds don't do. I beg to differ, because my son was born to me at 17 and I was and still am a great mother. Try and get some more education under your belt because once your child is born getting to school, finding babysitters, etc. can be tough. You don't just want to leave your child with anybody, especially not in today's society! I was blessed to have a mother and an aunt that watched my son while I went to my college classes (I gave birth to my son 3 weeks before high school graduation and my 18th birthday). If I were you, I'd at least get my GED first and try and get some type of certification if anything under my belt first before having the little honey bun. But I'm not telling you what to do at all, just my advice woman to woman. Don't let others deter you from what you feel is right, but most certainly pay attention and be aware of the advice you are given. I will tell you something that my grandmother told me when my son was born, some women are just meant to be mothers and some aren't. Some women are great mothers at an early age and some are still very immature. You seem very mature for your age, but like I said before just take the time out to think and make sure you have things in line first. You always want to make your child proud, and think of the many ways you can accomplish that! Best of luck to you darling and I know you'll be a great mom whenever you decide. Sorry for the story...lol!



 
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Old Apr 25th, 2014, 20:28 PM   20
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I know the feeling of wanting a baby because I've had it for a while but I know right now I'm not ready to have children. Honestly, I don't even remember how I felt about wanting children at 17 and now at 29 it's hard not to think about. I'm not sure what else to say that other members didn't already say. Good luck though.



 
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