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Old Apr 27th, 2014, 09:54 AM   11
girlinyork
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I had horrendous all day sickness with my DD up until 11 weeks. I wouldn't have coped with all the food around me on my wedding day. I'd have thrown up into it

I can understand your disappointment though. Don't fret over birth month - you're a teacher and I bet you could bring your baby up to speed easily enough. I think a lot of how children do in school is also to do with how committed their parents are to an education - both in and out of school



 
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Old Apr 27th, 2014, 12:13 PM   12
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Thanks girls. Mixed opinions on my plans and I understand that. Sorry if I seem to offend anyone saying 'ideally' I would prefer not to have a summer baby. I would love to have a baby it is just an ideal but life isn't that. I agree I need to leave it now until maybe late July and then I will speak to my OH again. It will be hard with my dr appointment coming up in early June though so may have to mention it then. We shall see.

I agree with the morning sickness etc on wedding day and it worries me but then I know a few girls who have been pregnant in early stages and heavily getting married and they have all had great days no matter what. This month is the first time I have had a proper period on my own for 10 years and it means I could have ovulated. So now I am praying if I ovulate again I will keep on doing. I am scared after 10 years of not that it may never happen that is all.

Thanks for your help though you have all made me see sense and I I've my OH and will wait until we are both ready. He needs to be 100% there for it to work xx



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Old Apr 27th, 2014, 12:22 PM   13
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Also the maternity for teachers I personally would think that having a baby due late sept/early oct is best. As then I could have the summer holiday to enjoy the last months of my pregnancy and get ready for the baby, go back for 2/3/4 weeks in sept and then have full maternity leave starting back at work for the last half term/few weeks before the summer holiday the following year to then have the whole summer paid as well lol.

But again that is an added bonus and a reality that probably wouldn't ever work out like that lol x



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Old Apr 27th, 2014, 14:12 PM   14
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I don't think there is anything wrong with prefering to have LO in a certain month- we all have an ideal situation in our minds and your reasons are sensible. As a teacher you really do see how different a just-turned-four year old is to a rising 5 (or whatever age group you teach) and it's natural to want to give your child any head start you can in life.
I know that if, when WTT for our 1st DH had said we could start ttc at a certain date and then changed his mind I would have been devestated, however sensible his reasons. And with the potential complications you potentially face conceiving you are bound to feel 100x more upset about it .
Could you take your OH with you to your doctors appointment and ask your doctor to run over starting a family in your circumstances? Hearing why your doctor feels that medically it is best not to leave ttc for too much longer might help your OH to see things from your persepctive. I would never advocate pushing someone to start a family when they aren't ready, but your OH wants a family soon (by the sound of it) and could potentially face difficulty in achieving this, so it sounds like it would be good for him to get a refresher on the medical side of things so he can make an informed decission (even if that i still to wait until after the wedding).



 
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Old Apr 27th, 2014, 14:17 PM   15
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Also the maternity for teachers I personally would think that having a baby due late sept/early oct is best. As then I could have the summer holiday to enjoy the last months of my pregnancy and get ready for the baby, go back for 2/3/4 weeks in sept and then have full maternity leave starting back at work for the last half term/few weeks before the summer holiday the following year to then have the whole summer paid as well lol.

But again that is an added bonus and a reality that probably wouldn't ever work out like that lol x
I think it's something to do with the pay, if you're due summer time then your "unpaid" period falls over the summer but then it means you can *technically* start work at the start of the summer holidays and get paid for it but you obviously don't actually go back until September. I've got a few teacher friends and each of them have said July and August are the best for leave, they have inside jokes about it lol but from what you say that's similar so maybe it's the same just after summer too. But I agree, I personally would aim for autumn as I know the difference it's meant to make.



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Old Apr 27th, 2014, 14:20 PM   16
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Yeah what you say now I think makes sense, I don't know why they say summer, unless it means you can start the leave before the summer holidays and then go back after the next summer holidays so it's over a year of leave...confusing myself now, good luck either way lol.



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