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Old Jan 3rd, 2018, 12:06 PM   521
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Iím starting to have second thoughts about trying for baby#2. I feel like my little girl is going through a tough stage right now at 5 months old. I canít imagine vomiting violently for 4 months or worse grieving a loss, and working full-time/taking care of a baby all at once. I keep telling myself every pregnancy is different, and we know my problem so the odds of another loss are low, but my heart has a hard time believing it. There are so many changes coming up too: I was just given the promotion to Director that Iíve been working so hard for, C is going to daycare and DH is going back to work in January, and Iíll be weaning off of pumping. Ugh so many emotions. Honestly, Iíd be happy with just my little C, but we both love our siblings and want C to have that too. I think I probably just need to give it some time and see how I feel in a February/March.
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Iím now going through a phase of we can do it then telling myself I wonít cope ! We want to try for baby no3 .
DD2 has just turned two and is going through a really naughty stage canít leave her alone for 5 minutes . But then I am thinking this year is precious too as she will start nursery next January ! So Iím thinking hopefully a new baby when she has started nursery . I just know for our family I would regret leaving it too late and not adding to our family ! I try to remind myself that this is just a stage and sheís learning and growing ! Not easy at the time though lol

Sorry for a quick reply using my phone at the minute . Just wanted you to know you are not alone with making this decision !!



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2018, 09:58 AM   522
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Welcome Zoie. I hope there is only happiness ahead, and will be here for support no matter your journey.

Thank you all for the support. Kiki - that darn bio clock is definitely part of it. I’m 36 in April this year. bb87 - Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone. We probably all have some mixed feelings no matter our situations.

C starts daycare on Monday and I’m so worried she just won’t nap there at all. Fx for a smooth transition. Less than 22 days of pumping left for me! Well more than that but less than 22 days before I start weaning off of pumping.



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2018, 10:26 AM   523
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If it makes you feel better my mother had her last baby at 38 I believe. My youngest brother is a perfectly healthy, thriving little boy of 7 years now and she had a smooth, complication free pregnancy and labor. You still have time at 36, a lot of women are having babies even into their 40's these days.



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2018, 11:12 AM   524
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Welcome Zoie! I'm so sorry for you loses, I can't imagine how painful that must have been. Hopefully it will be all good news from here on out.

Les - I get you on the age thing. I'm only 29 now, but pregnant with #1 and we would like 3-4 kids. So I anticipate having my last at the later end of my 30s. My mother was 36 and 39 when she had her babies. Her pregnancies weren't the easiest, but she did fine overall. I know lots of ladies who have had babies in their late 30s and have had smooth pregnancies and healthy babies so it's definitely doable!

I feel like I'm in a state of disbelief. If it weren't for the bump I wouldn't even know I was pregnant and yet in just over 8 weeks baby will be here! Crazy! We're also starting to talk about when to have #2. How is that even crossing our minds? haha. The conversation actually came up because my husband mentioned wanting to go to Jamaica for a vacation in winter 2019. He'll be 7-8 months into his new job and finances will be much better so he has started day dreaming. Of course that brought up the topic of zika and when were we planning to TTC again.



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2018, 11:18 AM   525
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Baby will be here so soon karoolia! That's so exciting! LOL the other day my DH mentioned something about how he wants two and then I was like 'whoa...let's see how this one goes first!!' ha ha ha



 
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haha, men. They don't have to do the work and yet here they are planning future babies.



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2018, 11:54 AM   527
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Yeah seriously! Let me get out of the first trimester haze a little bit first. Easy for you to say, buddy!



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2018, 12:01 PM   528
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Lol, men are funny either way. I've done the vast majority of the work with the kids yet I'm having to try to convince my DH that having another anytime soon is a good idea.

Alligator - I can't believe you're almost in the second trimester already! Time sure is flying.

karoolia - I was in a total state of disbelief after I gave birth. I would stare at my DS sleeping in his little hospital bassinet and just couldn't believe that he was really mine and that I was going to get to take him home and raise him for the next 18 years.



 
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It's crazy! Some people say it's 13, others 14...but if you do the math it's like 13.333 and I'm 13.3 tomorrow...so, either way...soon!



 
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How are you ladies doing? I am down to less than a month before baby arrives (give or take). I really am a 2018 mommy to be! So much to get done before baby arrives of course! Eep!



 
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