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Old Apr 8th, 2018, 11:39 AM   551
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Kiki - That must be so tough! Totally get why you havenít come on. Most things in marriage you can work out with communication and compromise, but thereís no compromise in that situation. I suppose the only possible compromise would be consideration: to know that your partner genuinely listened and considered the decision carefully. Please know that Iíve seen other women go through this, and after grieving the loss of the dream they had in their hearts, they found their way back from resentment to happiness with the family they also have in their arms and home. Hoping you can still pursue your dreams, and sending hugs and support as you navigate this uncertainty

Still not able to try here . I am no longer pumping during the work day, and DD is tolerating the 1 oz of formula weíre mixing with the ebm I have saved up. Sheís still bfing every 2-3 hours from 6 pm to 9 am and all day on the weekends or if sheís home sick with me. Itís frustrating, but Iím still loving the bond with DD. She had her first ear infection this past week all while cutting her first tooth. It killed me to see her in so much pain. Iím very thankful that I could still let her bf for comfort even if it means no AF for me.

Maybe this next month of zero pumping will do the trick? Setting my eyes on May. Iíd really like my children to be about 2 years apart (no more than 2 grades apart). I know it seems like I have plenty of time for that to happen still, but the cushion I had to work out any issues is gone. Doesnít help that Iím turning 36 this week 😅

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Old Apr 10th, 2018, 07:59 AM   552
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Sorry to read your post KiKi . I hope you manage to stay positive and enjoy all that you have in your life so far ! Itís so hard when your not on the same page when it comes to children. Sending you losts of love .

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Old Apr 16th, 2018, 10:47 AM   553
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Sorry to read your update's so hard, but, give your DH time. Men just take longer (don't they always?) to get their emotions in check and figure out what they want. I'm sure you'll figure some things out and get on the same page, give him some time I know it's tough.

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Old Apr 18th, 2018, 16:27 PM   554
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I'm sorry to hear that Kiki! It's hard when you are not on the same page as your SO. The only thing I can say is that you have two beautiful babies and that's a blessing with or without baby #3. It won't hurt to give it a few months until you are ready to try again and just have another talk about it. Maybe his feelings will change and maybe they won't but that communication is key.

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