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Old Jan 4th, 2017, 16:45 PM   1
lazybum09
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3rd baby or not


hi all,
I have a 4yr ds and a 7 yr old dd
I'm unsure on whether to try for a 3rd, I'm 32, 33 in June and would like some reassurance about the jump from 2 to 3 children and thinking that I'm too old 😕

I was here 4 years ago and it was an extremely supportive board

thank you



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Old Jan 4th, 2017, 20:02 PM   2
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I was teetering on the transition from 2 to 3 as well. I've always wanted a big family though so we decided to go for it. Truth be told our third fit in like a book. I think the hardest part is making sure everyone gets enough attention.



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2017, 02:32 AM   3
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Im expecting no.3, Im also the same age as you and personally didn't want to leave it any longer, my kids age gaps are already big, its just the way it worked out for us but as I got broody, and thought I could do it one more time I had to give it a go.

Good luck with whatever you decide x



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2017, 04:24 AM   4
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thank you for your replies, I think a lot of my concerns come from whether I can cope with 3 children and whether they'd get enough attention. so many questions running through my mind,, going to ponder a bit more I think x



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Old Jan 5th, 2017, 08:04 AM   5
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I found the decision to go from 2-3 really difficult; I was super broody and always wanted 3 children, but I fretted about whether it would upset the balance in our family, make things super difficult etc. We went for it and I now have a 5 year old, 3.5 year old and 15 month old. I love having 3 children, number 3 slotted in easily and it feels so right having 3



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2017, 23:16 PM   6
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For several months after the birth of my DD I struggled with the dilemma of "Should we have a 3rd?". I've discovered that if you're even considering having a 3rd, that should give you your answer right there. I realized that if I didn't want one I wouldn't even be thinking about it. It took a pregnancy scare last month for DH and I to both realize it though. Also you're definitely not too old, lol. My mother was 18 when she had her first child (me) and 37 or 38 when she had her 5th and final child (now 6 years old). I grew up in a big family (and by big I mean I'm #4 out of 10 between 2 sets of parents) and I can assure you it's not that bad, or at least it wasn't from my perspective. I've met plenty of people that regretted not going for that 3rd child but I've never met anyone that regretted having a 3rd.



 
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Old Jan 7th, 2017, 01:55 AM   7
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I was in your situation this time last year, I have 2 dds aged 6 and 2 we kept going back and forth on whether we wanted another, I realised that if I was done I would know for sure and this niggling feeling there should be one more wouldn't go away. We decided to try for a year and if it was meant to be it would happen, well it took 6 months and I'm now pregnant with a baby boy, due at the end of April. I feel completely content knowing this will be the last baby, my girls reaction has been amazing - especially my eldest, always asking questions thinking of names, wanting to feel baby kick! I'm hoping he will just slot into family life when he arrives. Good luck with your decision



 
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Old Jan 9th, 2017, 12:05 PM   8
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hi all,
I have a 4yr ds and a 7 yr old dd
I'm unsure on whether to try for a 3rd, I'm 32, 33 in June and would like some reassurance about the jump from 2 to 3 children and thinking that I'm too old 😕

I was here 4 years ago and it was an extremely supportive board

thank you
Hey You are almost 33 your hardly old especially not ancient as you seem to think If you want the third then why not? I am in the same boat am TTC in August this year, I have a 4 year old DD and an almost 6 year old DS. If you want to chat let me know!



 
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Old Jan 12th, 2017, 16:05 PM   9
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I have a 4 year old DS, an 18 month old DD and I have known so many pregnant people... my husband isn't sure if we should have a third talking about very sensible things like money and space and cars but I can't stop thinking I want one more baby.



 
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Old Jan 13th, 2017, 14:33 PM   10
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I had a 3rd without hesisitaion. I love having 3, although yes your slightly outnumbered, very much so when your on your own but I wouldn't have it any other way. We're trying for our 4th now which I did heisitate on but I figured if I was thinking about it then I obviously did. No one ever regrets having a child. They truly are all a blessing! Xx



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