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Old Mar 20th, 2017, 14:48 PM   1
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Thought I was done with 3 but????


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I have 3 children; DD1 ages 11 (12 in July), DD2 aged 2 and half and DS just turned 3 months.

I was really set on 3 being it after getting my beautiful baby boy after 2 girls but now I'm getting this feeling that I might want a 4th, am I crazy????

Hubby makes jokes well I think they are jokes about having another but I don't really know his real thoughts about it. He has said silly things about both our favourite number being 4 and I know that's not a valid reason to have a 4th. Also hubby is the youngest of 4.

I'm getting this big feeling that i'd love to have another boy, like it would be evened out and 2 of each also.

I know I'm babbling on but I'm really in 2 minds at the moment, I really thought this was it for me and we had talked about the snip for hubby but now I don't know if we are done.

One thing I'm worried about is other people's opinions if we did have a 4th, mother in law would definitely have something to say which would be hypocritical because she had 4 herself. My therapist has also made remarks when I saw him last saying how many is it now 4? 5?, saying are you done now, 3 is enough isn't it.
I know I shouldn't let anyone else's opinions bother me but I'm one of those people who let things get to me.

Well I'm going to drop the subject into conversation hopefully tonight with hubby and see where he really is at.



 
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Old Mar 20th, 2017, 15:12 PM   2
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Hi

I have 3 children; DD1 ages 11 (12 in July), DD2 aged 2 and half and DS just turned 3 months.

I was really set on 3 being it after getting my beautiful baby boy after 2 girls but now I'm getting this feeling that I might want a 4th, am I crazy????

Hubby makes jokes well I think they are jokes about having another but I don't really know his real thoughts about it. He has said silly things about both our favourite number being 4 and I know that's not a valid reason to have a 4th. Also hubby is the youngest of 4.

I'm getting this big feeling that i'd love to have another boy, like it would be evened out and 2 of each also.

I know I'm babbling on but I'm really in 2 minds at the moment, I really thought this was it for me and we had talked about the snip for hubby but now I don't know if we are done.

One thing I'm worried about is other people's opinions if we did have a 4th, mother in law would definitely have something to say which would be hypocritical because she had 4 herself. My therapist has also made remarks when I saw him last saying how many is it now 4? 5?, saying are you done now, 3 is enough isn't it.
I know I shouldn't let anyone else's opinions bother me but I'm one of those people who let things get to me.

Well I'm going to drop the subject into conversation hopefully tonight with hubby and see where he really is at.
Definitely talk to the hubs about it and see what he says! It also might be something that you don't have to decide right now. Good luck!



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Hi

I have 3 children; DD1 ages 11 (12 in July), DD2 aged 2 and half and DS just turned 3 months.

I was really set on 3 being it after getting my beautiful baby boy after 2 girls but now I'm getting this feeling that I might want a 4th, am I crazy????

Hubby makes jokes well I think they are jokes about having another but I don't really know his real thoughts about it. He has said silly things about both our favourite number being 4 and I know that's not a valid reason to have a 4th. Also hubby is the youngest of 4.

I'm getting this big feeling that i'd love to have another boy, like it would be evened out and 2 of each also.

I know I'm babbling on but I'm really in 2 minds at the moment, I really thought this was it for me and we had talked about the snip for hubby but now I don't know if we are done.

One thing I'm worried about is other people's opinions if we did have a 4th, mother in law would definitely have something to say which would be hypocritical because she had 4 herself. My therapist has also made remarks when I saw him last saying how many is it now 4? 5?, saying are you done now, 3 is enough isn't it.
I know I shouldn't let anyone else's opinions bother me but I'm one of those people who let things get to me.

Well I'm going to drop the subject into conversation hopefully tonight with hubby and see where he really is at.
Definitely talk to the hubs about it and see what he says! It also might be something that you don't have to decide right now. Good luck!
Thank you
Had a chat with hubby today after failed attempt last night. He says his jokes about a 4th is a bit of a cover that he does think about having a 4th and was thinking our baby has turned 3 months and he was thinking to himself is this really the last time having a baby. He says he's not saying a definite no or yes but there is something there about having a 4th child.
I also asked if we were to go ahead about what timescale and he said 2 years as he thinks 1 years time is too soon.
I'm not certain myself either and 2 years is a long time a lot can happen in that time but we will see, February/March 2019 we might possibly ttc #4



 
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Hi

I have 3 children; DD1 ages 11 (12 in July), DD2 aged 2 and half and DS just turned 3 months.

I was really set on 3 being it after getting my beautiful baby boy after 2 girls but now I'm getting this feeling that I might want a 4th, am I crazy????

Hubby makes jokes well I think they are jokes about having another but I don't really know his real thoughts about it. He has said silly things about both our favourite number being 4 and I know that's not a valid reason to have a 4th. Also hubby is the youngest of 4.

I'm getting this big feeling that i'd love to have another boy, like it would be evened out and 2 of each also.

I know I'm babbling on but I'm really in 2 minds at the moment, I really thought this was it for me and we had talked about the snip for hubby but now I don't know if we are done.

One thing I'm worried about is other people's opinions if we did have a 4th, mother in law would definitely have something to say which would be hypocritical because she had 4 herself. My therapist has also made remarks when I saw him last saying how many is it now 4? 5?, saying are you done now, 3 is enough isn't it.
I know I shouldn't let anyone else's opinions bother me but I'm one of those people who let things get to me.

Well I'm going to drop the subject into conversation hopefully tonight with hubby and see where he really is at.
Definitely talk to the hubs about it and see what he says! It also might be something that you don't have to decide right now. Good luck!
Thank you
Had a chat with hubby today after failed attempt last night. He says his jokes about a 4th is a bit of a cover that he does think about having a 4th and was thinking our baby has turned 3 months and he was thinking to himself is this really the last time having a baby. He says he's not saying a definite no or yes but there is something there about having a 4th child.
I also asked if we were to go ahead about what timescale and he said 2 years as he thinks 1 years time is too soon.
I'm not certain myself either and 2 years is a long time a lot can happen in that time but we will see, February/March 2019 we might possibly ttc #4
I'm glad you all were able to talk about it! It sounds like you guys are on the same page with a possible #4! I'd say revisit it every few months yo see how you guys feel.



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