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Old May 3rd, 2017, 17:26 PM   11
xrigorxmortis
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Not to mention females don't get along. Having one girl is bad enough another one would be a catastrophe



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Old May 3rd, 2017, 19:41 PM   12
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There are just as many horror stories of boys as there are for girls. Being a back stabber has nothing to do with your gender. I have 2 girls, I was raised with 2 brothers and 2 sisters. The things you are identifying with as being "girl traits" aren't girl traits. Those are traits of bad people. Have you considered talking to a counselor about your feelings towards females? It may be a good idea to talk to someone to sort it out before you do decide to ttc, because your emotions about the possibility of having a girl aren't healthy and really not a good way to begin as a parent



 
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Old May 3rd, 2017, 21:13 PM   13
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Please do not have children if this is the way you feel, it breaks my heart to think you may have a girl and she would be in any way unloved or made to feel that way. This is a horrible way to start your parenting journey.

Ok maybe I'm just scared if it's a girl. I don't know. I don't want to be mean to anybody I just hear horror stories about girls and sets me off. I don't know how to deal with them maybe maybe I just heard wrong. Just don't want a girl females just are back stabbers and almost every one has let me down

I just can't handle girls?
Again, it sounds like you need to get to the root of why you feel this way about females before you risk being responsible for caring for one/teaching a boy how to treat girls.

I'm sorry that you feel like almost every female has let you down, perhaps it would help you to speak with someone about your experiences and try to figure out a way to not apply them to every female in general.



 
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Old May 6th, 2017, 07:58 AM   14
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It sounds like you've had a hard time in life and this has left you with a very twisted view of the world. I'd advice you to go and seek help and get some counselling. Also, you presumably are females so you either have some major cognitive dissonance or severe self-loathing.



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Old May 11th, 2017, 06:04 AM   15
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TBH it looks like this poster may be a troll... her description is "press/research"...

For the record though, I have two boys and they both cry, a lot. And I comfort them, because that's what do you as a parent (or as a decent human being!). Saying you don't want a kid that cries... jeez.



 
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Old May 11th, 2017, 11:34 AM   16
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TBH it looks like this poster may be a troll... her description is "press/research"...

For the record though, I have two boys and they both cry, a lot. And I comfort them, because that's what do you as a parent (or as a decent human being!). Saying you don't want a kid that cries... jeez.
I didn't even notice that! You are probably right.



 
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