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Old Jul 23rd, 2017, 15:26 PM   11
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Old Jul 26th, 2017, 17:41 PM   12
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I guess just like the others have said, talk it out, even if he's uncomfortable about it.

Set some smaller goals ie with the first conversation your not expecting him to change his mind and say "yay, lets have another!" but maybe get him open to the idea to discussing it in say 3/4 months time and in that time both of you should consider the other's feelings before discussing again iykwim?
hope that helps, good luck

Old Aug 2nd, 2017, 05:47 AM   13
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Do you actually know what's his reason for not having another baby?

Old Aug 2nd, 2017, 11:49 AM   14
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Have you asked him what his requirements for having another would be? I did that with my DH and he was much more willing to compromise on having a 3rd. Now I at least know what his goals would be for having another.

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Old Aug 5th, 2017, 12:25 PM   15
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Huge hugs, this must be so difficult
I also desperately want another but I'm single

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Old Aug 5th, 2017, 20:32 PM   16
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Have you tried talking to him about what exactly his fears or reservations are? Could there be a conversation about fate and not trying but not preventing either?

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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 22:57 PM   17
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I ALWAYS wanted at least 3 - until DS2. He's got severe ADHD and it just put me off the idea completely and hubby was happy with 2. So when I found out I was pregnant with DS3, it was not very well taken news at all. I didn't want him but hubby was really, really supportive. Talk to your husband. He may have reasons, he may have fears - either way, not talking about it isn't healthy. Hopefully you get the answers you need and you can move forward from here - what ever way that may go.

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Old Aug 11th, 2017, 21:24 PM   18
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This is exactly what I came in here to talk about. I'm 30 and I've wanted another child for over a year now. My husband just keeps hesitating. He didn't say another baby was out of the question. He just can't give me a time when it will be "ok". Its been over a year of hoping.

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Old Aug 12th, 2017, 03:49 AM   19
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We have two kids already and OH surprised me over a year ago when he suggested we tried for a third. We had an early loss in January and a loss due to Down syndrome in July. Now he doesn't want to risk something like that happening again. It's been hard on both of us. I understand him but the thought of one more is what keeps me going.
This week he said that he'd consider trying again if we find a way to improve our finances. We're fine for now but we'll need a place of our own to live comfortably with three children.
I'm 39 so I hope he decides soon... I'm not pressuring him but I believe he knows where I stand.

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Old Jan 7th, 2018, 22:14 PM   20
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How are things with you now?

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