Worried about huge age gap and wanting to ttc.

Declansmummy · Jan 4th, 2018, 03:16 AM

Hi all, we have an 8 year old son and have always wanted to have another child but for so many reasons over the years we never got around to trying.

We are getting married next January and honeymoon will be in July so if we were to start thinking about ttc it would be after then.

Im scared that the age gap will be too big between our son and a possible new baby and im also scared about my age. I wont be old by any means but so much older than when i had our son.

I guess im just looking for people who have big age gaps between their children that can tell me the pros and cons and also women that have had a child when they are 18 and gone onto have other children almost 10 years later.

Thank you so much

KalonKiki · Jan 5th, 2018, 12:14 PM

I don't have a big gap between my children (2 years and 5 month gap) but there is a big gap between myself and several of my siblings. My 3 older step-sisters are all 10+ years older than me and were already adults when my dad and step-mom got married but I've still always gotten along well with them and adored them, I really look up to my big sisters. There's also a 17 and 19 year age gap between me and my two youngest siblings (I have 9 siblings altogether between my 2 sets of parents). I love all of my siblings, close age gaps and large age gaps. I wouldn't worry too much about the age gap, I don't think it's the be all and end all of how close siblings grow up to be.

Declansmummy · Jan 5th, 2018, 22:15 PM

Thank you for the reply

Tristansmom · Jan 9th, 2018, 14:45 PM

My kids are six years apart and are crazy about each other! A big gap can be a great thing

xMissxZoiex · Jan 9th, 2018, 14:52 PM

I was almost 9 when my little brother was born, I loved having a baby around the house so much. I used to carry my brother everywhere until he was 3 and my mum used to remind me he wasn't my baby

We are still very close, he is 19 now and often stays over at my house and babysits my son, it was a fantastic age gap and I got to really enjoy his childhood just as much as my parents.

Take2 · Jan 9th, 2018, 14:54 PM

My eldest daughter is 10 years older than dd2 and 12 years older than dd3, it has its positives and negatives but all in all they love each other and my eldest who is now 14 can be a really great help to me at times. Don’t over think age gaps, when they are all adults 10 years will be nothing, some of my best friends are either 10 years older or 10 years younger than I am and it doesn’t impact our relationship at all.

NickyNack · Mar 10th, 2018, 16:42 PM

Hi, I had my daughter when I was 16 (literally two weeks after my bday) and she’s 17 now. I also have a 13 yo , 7 & 5yo and I’m considering number 5 (now aged 33).. big age gaps means you have to adapt a lot when talking to either of them but in my opinion it’s brilliant because the older kids help loads and are mature enough to understand what’s going on

itsnowmyturn · Mar 10th, 2018, 18:58 PM

I wish the age gap between my daughter and my son was bigger, there is 2 years and 9 months between them. In hindsight I wish I had waited another couple of years, this really isn't an optimal age gap at all!!

BB1982 · Mar 15th, 2018, 09:39 AM

Slightly different situation, but my OH has two children from a previous relationship aged 9 and 6, and we have just had a baby last summer. They adore their new baby sibling and dote on and play with him so much, and are old enough to help (grab me that wipe, just watch him while I use the loo etc). They have to take turns having baths with him as they both love it but can’t all fit!! It’s so much fun, so a larger gap can be fine.

DoleWhip · Apr 19th, 2018, 08:36 AM

There are 10 years in between my son and my Daughter. My Daughter is 8 and we're WTT baby no 3, so there will be a 9 year age gap again!

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Declansmummy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 15	Worried about huge age gap and wanting to ttc. Hi all, we have an 8 year old son and have always wanted to have another child but for so many reasons over the years we never got around to trying. We are getting married next January and honeymoon will be in July so if we were to start thinking about ttc it would be after then. Im scared that the age gap will be too big between our son and a possible new baby and im also scared about my age. I wont be old by any means but so much older than when i had our son. I guess im just looking for people who have big age gaps between their children that can tell me the pros and cons and also women that have had a child when they are 18 and gone onto have other children almost 10 years later. Thank you so much

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KalonKiki Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Missouri, USA Posts: 3,895	I don't have a big gap between my children (2 years and 5 month gap) but there is a big gap between myself and several of my siblings. My 3 older step-sisters are all 10+ years older than me and were already adults when my dad and step-mom got married but I've still always gotten along well with them and adored them, I really look up to my big sisters. There's also a 17 and 19 year age gap between me and my two youngest siblings (I have 9 siblings altogether between my 2 sets of parents). I love all of my siblings, close age gaps and large age gaps. I wouldn't worry too much about the age gap, I don't think it's the be all and end all of how close siblings grow up to be.

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Declansmummy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 15	Thank you for the reply

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Tristansmom Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2015 Posts: 576	My kids are six years apart and are crazy about each other! A big gap can be a great thing

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xMissxZoiex Other BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 8,322	I was almost 9 when my little brother was born, I loved having a baby around the house so much. I used to carry my brother everywhere until he was 3 and my mum used to remind me he wasn't my baby We are still very close, he is 19 now and often stays over at my house and babysits my son, it was a fantastic age gap and I got to really enjoy his childhood just as much as my parents.

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Take2 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Gold Coast Queensland Posts: 1,019	My eldest daughter is 10 years older than dd2 and 12 years older than dd3, it has its positives and negatives but all in all they love each other and my eldest who is now 14 can be a really great help to me at times. Don’t over think age gaps, when they are all adults 10 years will be nothing, some of my best friends are either 10 years older or 10 years younger than I am and it doesn’t impact our relationship at all.

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NickyNack Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: East of Scotland Posts: 2,128	Hi, I had my daughter when I was 16 (literally two weeks after my bday) and she’s 17 now. I also have a 13 yo , 7 & 5yo and I’m considering number 5 (now aged 33).. big age gaps means you have to adapt a lot when talking to either of them but in my opinion it’s brilliant because the older kids help loads and are mature enough to understand what’s going on

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itsnowmyturn Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Birmingham England Posts: 2,466	I wish the age gap between my daughter and my son was bigger, there is 2 years and 9 months between them. In hindsight I wish I had waited another couple of years, this really isn't an optimal age gap at all!!

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BB1982 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2015 Posts: 198	Slightly different situation, but my OH has two children from a previous relationship aged 9 and 6, and we have just had a baby last summer. They adore their new baby sibling and dote on and play with him so much, and are old enough to help (grab me that wipe, just watch him while I use the loo etc). They have to take turns having baths with him as they both love it but can’t all fit!! It’s so much fun, so a larger gap can be fine.

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DoleWhip Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2018 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 11	There are 10 years in between my son and my Daughter. My Daughter is 8 and we're WTT baby no 3, so there will be a 9 year age gap again!

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