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Old Feb 4th, 2018, 05:13 AM   1
Buttercupbabi
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Number 3? Decisions, decisions...


Hi all,

We have 2 boys! Baby number 3 was never on the cards! We're very happy as a family of 4, however last night my OH mentioned that he might want a third. That really shocked me (in a good way) because he was always the one from the beginning to say NO MORE!

But now I have all these things going round in my head... I was told I have a underactive thyroid (they have even upped my dosage because my levels aren't right still so conceiving could be tricky), im nearly 34 and the sleepless night could be harder, it would be my 3rd c-section, i have low ferritin levels and I have extreme health anxiety issues! These are the cons

However, I cannot stop thinking about the pros!
Another baby, an additional little boy with a different little face, even maybe a little girl... Can't stop looking at prams and clothes! Even though the cons scare me a lot, I feel like the pros are totally out weighing them!!

AAaargh what to do, what to do!!!!

Anyone in the same boat??




 
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Old Feb 9th, 2018, 03:29 AM   2
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Yes have been for about 3 years but more so the past 2 yrs thinking about it on and off, changing my mind regularly. The thing I’ve noticed is each time I talk myself out of it because yes it will be hard work and it seems crazy logically to have a 3rd with all the practicalities, dh is 50/50 he sees the practical side more than anything but is happy to go ahead.
So I talk myself out of it and decide we will stick with 2 but I always come back to it. I’ve tried hard to put it to the back of my mind/move on with the family we have, gone on the pill etc but still it always comes back the questioning, the desire.

So I obvs want one it just seems crazy that I would do it knowing what lays ahead! People often give advice to wait and see how you feel I’m a yr or 2, well Im there and still want it! So we.ve decided we will ttc! Scary but exiting, I think if I’ve spent this much time thinking about it and it’s still on my mind I should probably do it as in years to come I may of wished I had. It’s so hard to know how our lives will be though in years to come or how we may feel.
Good luck, it’s not an easy decision x



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2018, 07:34 AM   3
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Hi oh my my god yes we are very simulating the fact that we ave two boys it will be my third section too, and oh had always said no more 😂 but last night we really got talking and when we come back from playa Blanca in June we r gonna try for a new baby I'm like you looking at baby clothes etc and would love a girl I said to him that I see you with the boys and have so much fun playing rough or cars etc but I'd love to have that with a girl to be girly with I'm so girly naturally but as a boy mam it's hard to be in anything other than uggs n jeans 😂



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2018, 05:27 AM   4
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Hi oh my my god yes we are very simulating the fact that we ave two boys it will be my third section too, and oh had always said no more 😂 but last night we really got talking and when we come back from playa Blanca in June we r gonna try for a new baby I'm like you looking at baby clothes etc and would love a girl I said to him that I see you with the boys and have so much fun playing rough or cars etc but I'd love to have that with a girl to be girly with I'm so girly naturally but as a boy mam it's hard to be in anything other than uggs n jeans 😂
Oh my god me too!!!
You will have to let me know how you get on...
My biggest fear is probably the 3rd section - i feel like my previous 2 did my back so harm too!!

I really want this baby now!! Trying to convince my OH still... he sees the cons a little more then I do! Its frustrating!!!




 
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Old Feb 20th, 2018, 07:04 AM   5
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I was in this predicament a few months ago after being so sure we were done at two, now look at us, 8 weeks pregnant! I still have moments wondering are we mad to go back to it? But ultimately we would never regret a new baby, but would more likely regret not trying!



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2018, 08:00 AM   6
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I was in this predicament a few months ago after being so sure we were done at two, now look at us, 8 weeks pregnant! I still have moments wondering are we mad to go back to it? But ultimately we would never regret a new baby, but would more likely regret not trying!
oooh congratulations! So exciting

I feel a 3rd baby would be so amazing but will have to see what happens I guess xx



 
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Same. Oat here too! DH & I have 2 girls (9 & 4). I had a chemical (surprise) last month and that has got me thinking about it again. I’ve gone back and forth ever since our second was born. I keep thinking about all the cons. We’re older now (32 & 34), more money, harder for a family of 5, etc but I still keep coming back to it. DH is not sure he wants anymore tho



 
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Same. Oat here too! DH & I have 2 girls (9 & 4). I had a chemical (surprise) last month and that has got me thinking about it again. I’ve gone back and forth ever since our second was born. I keep thinking about all the cons. We’re older now (32 & 34), more money, harder for a family of 5, etc but I still keep coming back to it. DH is not sure he wants anymore tho
Totally in the same boat hun!
I keep seeing my friends and they're all having their 3rd. One friend just had twins and now has 5... If they can do it surely we can haha thats what i keep telling OH!



 
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