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Old Mar 10th, 2018, 16:33 PM   1
NickyNack
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Considering baby number 5


My husband and I are thinking about baby number 5. We have four girls currently and have just bought a house in September. Iím about to graduate from university (Social Work).

I had 4 c sections
* failed induction, fetal distress - category 1 emergency (highest)
* elective - breech
* elective - breech
* failed VBAC after 19hr labour - category 3 emergency (low)

Iíve resigned myself to never having a VBAC so Iíll have another c section if Iím having another baby. At my last birth, the surgeon said that I was good for another csection (as long as I know the increased risk) but also that my uterus was paper thin. So it was a bit conflicting, I need to get that clarified.

Also Iím bipolar. I was diagnosed after my last birth and had a really hard time for a while with my mental health. I breastfed for 14 weeks but it wasnít working out and I took that hard, which didnít help. Iím not currently on meds as I came off them in preparation for ttc

I donít know why Iím posting this here... I guess I just wanted to write it down and see if anyone is going through similar.




 
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Old Mar 10th, 2018, 18:28 PM   2
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Hello
I’m also wtt only based on the appointment to get my implant taken out.

I say go for it, it’s not like it’s anything you’ve never done before and once you have 4 what is one more haha



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2018, 21:36 PM   3
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Partner and I aren't together at present due to my issues with anger so that needs to be resolved and positive change happening before he will consider coming home. But we have also talked about the possibility of a #5. We have 4 boys and he wants a little girl - I do too. We will see. Even if we aren't together the possibility of one more baby is there anyhow. My anger issues aside (and we think my childhood is the trigger as I argue with my 2 eldest like kids do) we actually get along really well. He and the 2 eldest just can't be here until later on.



 
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Old Mar 11th, 2018, 05:51 AM   4
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I’m coping really well being off my meds, I’ve had 2 bereavements, work full time, have a daughter with additional needs and two teenagers and I’m managing fine. I’m also on the middle of writing my dissertation and assignments and no one actually knows I’m bipolar unless I tell them so I guess I’m high functioning! I just worry that my broodiness will continue and I’ll never be “done”. But also I’m worried about the risks, not just for pregnancy but what effect that will have on my life afterwards - I’m a good mum and don’t want that to be jeopardised. I guess I’m unsure. Plus, bipolar means I’m quite compulsive and I am doubting myself because what if it’s compulsion making me broody (even though it’s been like this for a good while!)



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2018, 06:39 AM   5
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Hey! We also have 4 (all boys) Iím currently feeling like I could be pregnant, but seems unlikely. I think Iíd like another but at the moment hubby says he really doesnít also like you have a mental health condition, a borderline personality disorder which is quite similar to bipolar disorder. How old are your youngest? Mine is 17 months almost xx



 
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Old Apr 4th, 2018, 03:22 AM   6
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My youngest will be 6 in a couple months. I believe my daughter has BPD but is only 13 so hasn’t been diagnosed yet. The classic symptoms are there. Hope you’re doing ok, it’s not easy to love with either BP !



 
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Old Apr 4th, 2018, 03:28 AM   7
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I dont think the feeling ever goes away for some of us If you are all happy then go for it



 
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Old Apr 4th, 2018, 05:36 AM   8
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Well today hubby as agreed to another! Heís really come round to the idea! Said we just have to sort a few things first but will start some time this year! I swear Iíll have names picked out before we even start trying haha xx



 
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Old Apr 6th, 2018, 13:25 PM   9
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Congrats!



 
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Old Apr 8th, 2018, 09:47 AM   10
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Thank you! Whatís it like having 4 daughters? I canít imagine lol xx



 
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