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Old Jul 18th, 2010, 15:00 PM   261
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Hey Caroline, maybe my story will help? When DH and I got engaged his Mum was so bothered by it she had to go and get married to her then boyfriend before us. When we told her I was pregnant it wasn't long before we heard all about a miscarriage she'd had and how they were trying for a baby. Bearing in mind she's well into her 40s, has two kids (the youngest is now 14) and her partner never wanted children. In the end she hasn't had another baby so I guess maybe that is that but I have always felt pretty sore about how she is constantly trying to outdo me with everything. She is so weird.



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2010, 11:30 AM   262
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Hey Pumpkim
Yes, it is kinda silly for us to feel like this, but I guess with us being 'older' and having waited so long and done it all 'properly', it just seems wrong that when finally it's our turn, others have to get in first ... crazy! Don't know why I care really, lol... But, I did think of a positive point!!! haha, as DH's parents will already have a realtively new granchild, they might give us a bit more space and not want to take over with our baby!!! haha...

And that's lovely that you and your best friend will be having babies around the same time!!! I can understand you not wanting to tell her yet... but I don't know how long I'd be able to keep it from my best friend!!! haha...

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Hey Caroline, maybe my story will help? When DH and I got engaged his Mum was so bothered by it she had to go and get married to her then boyfriend before us. When we told her I was pregnant it wasn't long before we heard all about a miscarriage she'd had and how they were trying for a baby. Bearing in mind she's well into her 40s, has two kids (the youngest is now 14) and her partner never wanted children. In the end she hasn't had another baby so I guess maybe that is that but I have always felt pretty sore about how she is constantly trying to outdo me with everything. She is so weird.
Oh G0d Peanut, your DH's mum sounds a bit of a nightmare!!! When I first started seeing DH at 21, his mum was always trying to dress the same as me and stuff, but OMG - your MIL certainly took that a step further!!!! Why would a mother be jealous of her son like that?!?!? Wierd!



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2010, 11:50 AM   263
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And that's lovely that you and your best friend will be having babies around the same time!!! I can understand you not wanting to tell her yet... but I don't know how long I'd be able to keep it from my best friend!!! haha...
It's easier because we don't live near each other anymore so it's not as if we chat on a daily basis or see each other a lot, we do lot's of our catching up by text / email. She'll kill me when she finds out I didn't tell her though



 
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Just replied to you on your journal - so sorry to hear you're having such a worrying time - big hugs for tomorrow



 
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Oh G0d Peanut, your DH's mum sounds a bit of a nightmare!!! When I first started seeing DH at 21, his mum was always trying to dress the same as me and stuff, but OMG - your MIL certainly took that a step further!!!! Why would a mother be jealous of her son like that?!?!? Wierd!
She's relatively young, maybe 15 years older than me, and generally considered very attractive (by men anyway) and she has always had hang ups about a lot of stuff. She's just screwed up I guess.



 
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Old Jul 20th, 2010, 05:49 AM   266
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Hi all! Thanks for the welcomes. Hope people get their problems sorted soon and we all can move over to TTC!
I have a bit of news. My AF is late. Did a test last night but was BFN. Hubs was great! I thought he would freak but was brill and even suprised himself by feeling disappointed! He says he knows he's ready now. But we're both relieved too. Oct gives us a little financial breathing room and a full quota of folic acid.
P.S. Oct a an excellent choice of wedding month!



 
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Old Jul 20th, 2010, 06:58 AM   267
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Hello
My first post on any baby forum!
Thought I'd say hi - as I am an OAP too! I am 32 and DH 35. We are WTT and hope to start Jan / Feb next year.
Been together 8.5 years and married for 3. Not felt ready at all until recently - wanted to go on lots of exotic holidays, weekends away and buy a house first. Now on house no.2 but we are waiting as I started a new job recently and would feel bad if it happened straight away.
Neither of us have kids so, hoping everything works!!!
Scared - but excited and surprised how chilled I feel about it now - as would have scared the hell out of me as recently as 6 months ago!



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Old Jul 20th, 2010, 07:20 AM   268
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Welcome anjadoem! I'm in a similar position to you! Let's hope it all goes smoothly!



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2010, 05:28 AM   269
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hi kerry
what day in October did you get married? our date is 9th October and i am so excited!!!



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2010, 06:19 AM   270
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23rd - which is co-incidentally the same date as they got married in the Time Travelers' Wife! I love that book...



 
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