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Old Sep 28th, 2010, 22:45 PM   1
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Anyone else worried about infertility/how long it will take to get BFP?


I am worried about infertility due to a number of reasons, we haven't exactly started 'trying' yet, (but we did have a few instances where we used nothing because we had no protection and nothing happened).

But I am worried it won't happen for us as I know so many couples who are infertile and some have been through IVF too and still nothing. I also had an infection once, which i am worried could have damaged my fertility, although it shouldn't. And oh may have a low sperm count due to a congenital abnormality as a baby.

I just wish i new how long it will take, and if it will even happen. My mum got pregnant every time (3 times) in the first month off the pill and she was in her 30's!!!! So obviously some people are super fertile and it happens super quick. I don't like not knowing if it could take 1 month or we could be infertile. I don't like how there are such different extremes!!!!

If it were to happen in the first month I wouldn't try for one yet, but if I new we were infertile or 'sub fertile' then i would probably start trying for one, because i know you have to try for 12 months before moving to IVF and then there can be a long wait to get treatment.



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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 03:08 AM   2
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I worry too, my cycles aren't perfect off the pill and I don't always ovulate each cycle.

OH found a lump a year or two back in his testicle, it wasn't cancerous luckily. I can't remember the name of it now, but it makes it lower than the other. The dr said it can cause problems with sperm production, as it can make the testicle warmer than normal.



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 03:46 AM   3
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I worry about this all the time. My parents were in their late 30s when they had me (I'm the eldest) and I wonder whether it was due to fertility issues, or simply that they wanted to wait. Unfortunately I don't really have a relationship where I can ask them.

But it does worry me a lot.



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 07:26 AM   4
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i worry because my husband is a lot older than me. I am hoping that because i am young ish (26) that we will hopefully be fine.

My husband has never been married or had children before me so i just hope it is because he never wanted to. It has only been in the last month that he has changed his mind about wanting a baby with me.



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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 07:39 AM   5
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I am freaking myself out over that question sometimes!

I think it took my mom years to conceive me, although i don't know if they were actively trying to conceive all the time. gotta ask her about that some time safe lol
also i had an eating disorder for years and did not have my period due to this and i'm now massively worried that that might have affected my fertility

i just got off the pill friday and had my breakthrough bleed and keeping my fingers crossed for normal cycles, i'll be charting them. altough we're still not TTC that would at least calm me down i think

but i really don't feel good about waiting so much longer and i just hope OH changes his mind and wants a LO with me soon



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 08:27 AM   6
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Me....OH is older, and I'm just scared we are going to be waiting forever for a baby....but PMA is essential! xxx



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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 08:44 AM   7
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Wow Amy, it's as if you're in my head! I think about this daily!! One minute I will be thinking about baby names and the next minute I'll be thinking about whether or not I'll actually be able to concieve!



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 14:19 PM   8
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Omg I worry about this all the time, I cant explain why I feel like this, or any particular factors that make me think we wont be able to. Ive just got this feeling.
Does the length of your cycle make any difference to your chances of conceiving? I know the average is 28 days, but mine tend to be 31-33days
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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 14:21 PM   9
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I just said this in another thread...try not to worry too much as you have no real reasons to worry yet! I was 32 and OH was 36 when we tried to conceive LO, we got pregnant 1st try! I thought for sure I'd have problems...you really just never know. Don't panic about things that haven't even happened yet, it certainly won't help! Just enjoy your countdown to TTC!



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2010, 14:31 PM   10
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Wow Amy, it's as if you're in my head! I think about this daily!! One minute I will be thinking about baby names and the next minute I'll be thinking about whether or not I'll actually be able to concieve!
This is me too Everyone I know has fallen pregnant either on the first attempt or by accident, and although I don't have any reason to believe that it wouldn't happen to me, there's no guarantees it will It'll probably be fine, but I'd hate to be trying for years with people asking me why we haven't got around to having a baby yet, when in fact we were on our third cycle of IVF or something like that and just hadn't wanted to tell people.

Emily, the length of your cycle has no bearing on your fertility, unless you have specific problems such as PCOS! The average cycle is 28, but that means that loads of women will have shorter cycles and loads will have longer! 31 days is fine hun!



 
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