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Old Nov 19th, 2010, 14:45 PM   11
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I am the same as all you ladies, except a little bit older than you OP (20, OH is 21). I had a pregnancy scare and OH and I talked and we said if I was we would keep it. I was so dissapointed that I wasn't even though I know it is for the best and still hope every month that there could be a chance....It is strange though, because I do still have the part of me that knows full well, that it would be so much better in a few years but I can't get rid of that part that thinks well maybe... after I ovulate ever month!

We both want children together some day which makes it even worse as OH often tells me he wants to have children with me in the future.

Degree is almost out of the way now though (6 months left) so one step closer to being in a positive place

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Old Nov 19th, 2010, 16:08 PM   12
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hang in there girl, your time will come, it will be perfect and most definately worth the wait.

I am a young mum (i became a mum at 17) and it is the best thing that happened to me, we had an oopsie and our oopsie is our world. We are planning TTC for another baby soon.
Since having my LO i have built up two successful businesses out of nothing, but i sure wish Id waited until I had finished college or uni education as I had alot of late nights ahead of me! lol

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Old Nov 20th, 2010, 11:28 AM   13
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I'm 34, had my first when I was 33! For me it was perfect...obviously not suggesting you wait that long! lol. But just until you're more settled. I know it'll be hard, but it'll make all the better when you finally do have your LO.

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Old Nov 20th, 2010, 11:36 AM   14
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I was in situation like you only i found out i was pregnant & i was 17.

Its not the best time to go have a baby tbh, i was living at home, been with my OH for 2yrs. Its been very hard!

I'd deffo say wait it out, it'll be sooo much more better & worth while

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Old Nov 20th, 2010, 13:04 PM   15
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im just offering some insight from personal experience;

i was with FOB for about 6 months and he told me that he wanted to get engaged soon, and try for a baby. he already has a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship and said that he would love for me to make him a father a second time. we were TTC and i thought i was on top of the world, that everything was perfect between us and would just get more perfect as soon as baby came. when i did get pregnant a bunch of lies that he had told came out in the open and i found out he had been doing some things behind my back. he told me to have an abortion, that the only reason he told me we should TTC is cuz he knew it's what i wanted to hear and didn't expect me to actually get pregnant. i am now on my own, coming to terms with my situation, and feel very blessed but please seriously think about the WHAT IF. it's not even so much your age, but your entire situation. i have lived on my own almost 2 years, have my own nice 2 bedroom, lots of money saved, tons of things for baby already, supportive family and it's STILL hard. i thought i was going to be with this man forever, i planned on getting married, having help with the baby every day and financial support etc and all my plans fell through. if life happens otherwise, obviously embrace it. but don't try for a baby with someone you don't have full commitment from. i should have waited until i had a ring on my finger but instead words were enough for me and where is FOB now? definetly not married to me!

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Old Nov 20th, 2010, 14:27 PM   16
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I was I guess in your same situation about a year ago. When I was a kid up until 18 kids in general I didn't really want but for me I just thought if that's what I wanted I would get it by changing my life and working for that. My goal took a shorter time than yours but the object is trying to pay attention to the goal so you can ttc and eventually have one of your own.

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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 06:38 AM   17
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Hey there. I am also 18 and WTT. I have been with my OH for nearly two years and we are just recently engaged. We have had a pregnancy scare last year and though I've always wanted a baby we definitely weren't in the right position to have one. Now that we know each other so well and are very deep in love we feel ready. We agree on how we want to raise our children and about how much we want.
I think you should wait since you are in full time education and part time job. You sound very busy. It would be nicer for you if you waited til you moved out as well, though I don't live with my fiance yet (he wants to enjoy the place alone for a little while before I move in)
The only reason we are waiting is that he wants a better job than he has now. Hopefully we will TTC in January and I will have graduated from my photography school in March.

It was really painful when he wasn't ready and I was. There was some resentment and loads of tears. It truly.... sucks. But something as wonderful as having a baby I think we will find is worth the wait. Good luck!

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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 18:21 PM   18
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I woulld just like to say a big thank you to everyone who replied i did reply yesterday but my post isn't here for some reason

Old Nov 21st, 2010, 20:19 PM   19
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It's so nice to know there's loads of us thought I was a weirdo, i went off clubbing about a year or 2 ago and now i'm all boring and calm haha xxx

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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 20:23 PM   20
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I thought i was a weirdo aswell!
I've only gone clubbing 3 times since my 18th (march this year)
I prefer cuddled up in bed with my OH with a dvd on a friday night, im such an old woman!



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