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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 07:24 AM   1
Trixiebell
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What are your reasons for wanting to wait?


Ours are financial reasons.

It started when I was 18, I went abit mad, credit wise - It started with just one catalogue, then another and another. I'd ordered so much that it got to the point where near enough all my wage was going towards paying them off each month. I gradually managed to pay them off and just have the one. I then got a Pilot Duet card because I loved the clothes shop Pilot Bad IDEA! Maxed it out!
I was out every weekend with my mates, had the attitude of I don't want and boyfriend, don't need one, happy being single, never get married and kids ha no way!
A year later when I met my OH that all changed, we were engaged within 4 months, lived together at my Mums for the next 5-6 years, bought a house together in 2007. Meant saving for a deposit had no money for furniture, I know I'll get get an Argos card. Biggest mistake of my life!
I always said that I would never get a credit card...well now I have 2! Plus a loan that I got to pay off some of my debt but it didn't work out that way...
I have now been through my finances and wrote a schedule of payments etc so I know exactly where my money is and what I have left.
My OH and I got married in September this year and were originally going to wait until this time next year to TTC but the broody feeling is so overwhelming that I cannot wait that long, so we have now changed it to June. My debts are not too bad now and can manage to pay everything no problem and still have quite abit left over. I'm spending the next 7 months paying as much of the remaining debts off so when the time comes our child/ children can have the best upbringing without us having to struggle.



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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 08:40 AM   2
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We're getting married in January, so just waiting until after the wedding to ttc! We're going away to Mexico and this momma wants to have a good time! lol.
Good luck on paying things down! Sounds like you're got it all sorted out now!



 
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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 11:08 AM   3
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Finishing degree course and post september due date- but mainly uni. I didn't want to jeopardise my degree but by trying from December I'll be a maximum of 5/6 months when I finish- with no waiting around!! (In an ideal world)



 
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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 11:13 AM   4
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Well at the moment we are living 35 miles apart (we both live at home with our parents) only way my parents will let my OH move in is if i get pregnant, we are both on a local council list to hopefully we can get something offered to us soon. That is the main reason really, i dont really want to wait but the choice is taken out of my hands im afriad



 
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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 11:28 AM   5
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For us it is because we have a holiday of a lifetime booked for July/August next year. We are going to America/hong kong and Australia with my family for my parents 50th birthday.

We are going to ttc in Feb because if we got caught on the first month then i would be 5 months gone and in the second trimester - which would be uncomfortable with flights but not too bad.



 
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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 11:28 AM   6
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Our son is only 15 months old and I would like to spend more time with him, preferbly until he is 3. Apart from that, I'm still in training for my job and will not be finished until Sep next year. We'd also like to move and ned to save and pay off current credit cards. Despite these practical reasons, my hormones are kicking in and trying thir best to make me broody. My head will have to rule my heart though for the moment... x



 
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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 11:42 AM   7
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ours were just waiting till we both feel ready for #2 sounds but soo not lol x



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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 11:52 AM   8
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Don't want to wait but have to! I still have teacher training to get through and it will be impossible with a young child to care for also. Hopefully in three/four years time when I am a qualified teacher, we will have saved a nice amount of money for maternity leave and paying for things for the baby and my OH will be ready (he wants one but it not quite as ready as I am) However, I would rather be married first and that means that we may not be able to have a baby as soon as mentioned above.



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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 15:38 PM   9
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Ah somewhere I can let it all out! It's nice to hear other peoples reasons, and also helps me try to remember we're doing the sensible thing.

We got married in July, but although we both work 40+ hour weeks we kind of earn a pitiful wage between us. So sad but so true! We moved in with my parents two years ago to save, but with our share of rent here and paying for the wedding it never really happened. I recently took a risk and left my stable admin job to work as an editorial assistant to build a career that will leave us better off. OH has just staryted a course in web design too to try to get himself a new, better career! We would love (LOVE) to try now, but for obvious reasons it really isn't the right time.

I have to admit, my broody levels have been through the roof since the wedding. I've always wanted to be a mum, and its hard just waiting it out! Are any of you ladies struggling with waiting - even though you know the reasons are right?!

Good luck to you all with education/training/debts/housing!!



 
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Old Nov 21st, 2010, 15:49 PM   10
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I need to finish University and start teacher training next year. That's it.



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