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Old Dec 2nd, 2010, 12:10 PM   11
Miss Broody
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I think it really varies, and I am going to be a bit controversial and say the attitude of the mother plays a big role!! One of my best friends has a lo, and I would love to see her more. We hardly go out and regularly have evenings at someones house and ask/ offer to go there but unless it's a special occaision she doesn't see us.

Don't get me wrong I get having a child is exhausting etc but I think both parties have to make an effort.

I think most my friends have grown out of clubbing regularly and several are settling down/ married/ wanting kids, so I don't think anyone will be too surprised or drift away. Maybe naive !!
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Old Dec 3rd, 2010, 05:50 AM   12
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Yes, I do very much, but we're all going to settle down at some point. And we'll be busy, as long as we make time everything will be okay :-)



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2010, 08:05 AM   13
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I think it really varies, and I am going to be a bit controversial and say the attitude of the mother plays a big role!! One of my best friends has a lo, and I would love to see her more. We hardly go out and regularly have evenings at someones house and ask/ offer to go there but unless it's a special occaision she doesn't see us.

Don't get me wrong I get having a child is exhausting etc but I think both parties have to make an effort.

I think most my friends have grown out of clubbing regularly and several are settling down/ married/ wanting kids, so I don't think anyone will be too surprised or drift away. Maybe naive !!
Xx
I've found that to be the case too - I've had friends who had babies and then would say things like, "oh we know you don't want to hang around with us now" or "you need to have a baby too so we can hang out again" and it's like wha..?? Obviously having a baby changes the game so much, and I think it's natural for new moms to want to hang out mostly with other new moms so they can talk about the same types of things. But I totally agree that the new mom's choices play a big role in whether friendships will be maintained.

Also age - DH and I are around 30/in our 30s, so I doubt having a baby would change friendships as much as for someone who is in his/her early 20s.



 
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