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Old Nov 29th, 2010, 14:01 PM   1
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Do you worry about losing friends?

Hello there.
Me and my OH will be ttc in september 2011. One thing that i'm slightly worried about is losing friends during the pregnancy stage and also after when the baby is born.

We got married last year August 2010. I tried my best to maintain friendship with my single friends, however majority of people have not made any effort in keeping in touch. I felt so lonely after I got married.

What are your thoughts about your friends in the near future?

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Old Nov 29th, 2010, 14:22 PM   2
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I have more or less lost all my friends tbh. But that's only because none of them have children so we have different priorities and interests now. I think once they all have LO's we'll all be friends again x

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Old Nov 29th, 2010, 14:27 PM   3
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I'm not worried about it as such, but I accept it might happen. The majority of my friends have children/are getting married/are planning families, so we are all at the same stage of life, so they are alright. It'll be the single ones that I can't just meet up with spontaneously that I think might lose interest x

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Old Nov 29th, 2010, 14:41 PM   4
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if they are truly your friend then they still will be
If not then your better off!
I have four friends
2 of which were friends from the age of 12 to now
people have come
people have gone
but these friends are my tried and true friends and the ones I know I can call at 3 am crying.
and vice versa
If those friends walk away and quit hanging round wih you becaus you do have a baby then find comfort knowing that the friends who will be brought into you life because of your children will be so much better!

Old Nov 29th, 2010, 14:43 PM   5
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Most of my friend had children way before me so you drift apart slightly when you start doing different things in life, now i have a child they want to see me more lol

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Old Nov 30th, 2010, 06:56 AM   6
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I found the same. Once we were engaged some of my single friends weren't so interested even refused to come to the wedding as it would make her uncomfortable (as she really wants to get married but is still single!) so some of my friends i have let drift away and don't really feel the worse for it.
I think that the friends you can count on will always be there even if you have different things going on in your life. So i wouldn't worry too much

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Old Nov 30th, 2010, 07:36 AM   7
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I am so glad someone else is thinking this too!

I go married in May and we are TTC from 9th December and i am worried as to what might happen. I live in london and i am always about in town meeting up with friends extra but since getting married single friends think you don't want to go on clubbing nights anymore so don't invite anymore and once i have a child i wont be available to be in town all the time for coffees/drinks etc

I have given this alot of thought though especially since one of my good friends just announced she is pregnant, i think our lives will just move in another direction and we will still be friends but just not see each as much and i think i am ok for my life to move that way. I guess its settling down. And for those friends who have babies and aren't working im sure we'll hang out and i plan to join mother and baby groups so to make new friends and keep in touch with the old ones too.

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Old Nov 30th, 2010, 12:25 PM   8
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In a way I am hoping to make more friends when I get pregnant. After uni finished we all kinda drifted apart and although we try and keep in contact a bit, it hasn't been the same.

I do plan on trying to go to parent and baby classes but it will be hard because I will work full time and my husband will be a stay at home dad. I hope people with babies will still want to socialist with me in the evening.

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Old Nov 30th, 2010, 23:29 PM   9
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I'm sort of the opposite. Being the only one of my friends with a child... I think we will become closer once I become a mother. Right now I'm just the odd one out.

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Old Dec 2nd, 2010, 12:00 PM   10
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I understand your concern. Quite a few of my friends are having/ have had babies and it does change the relationship. But I've found that I've managed to stay in close contact with the friends who have been most important to me.

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