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Old Dec 5th, 2010, 15:05 PM   1
Nimoo
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are my feelings normal?!


as the time off ttc draws closer the nerves are really kicking in and its completely different to how i felt about #1 i was constantly excited and never doubted myself about if I would be able to cope or not but as we will be trying for baby #2 all these questions are going through my mind will I be able to handle two? how will this affect my baby shakiel? what if he doesn't like the new arrival? am I being selfish? theres plenty more going through my head and its starting to put me in real doubt and is starting to upset me and gets to the point of tears

I want another little addition to our family sooooo badly I've seen him round other babies and is super good but this will be full on my oh is so keen on having another and says shakiel will adjust and we will make it work cos we have so much love to give and as long as we dont leave him out or put him 2nd, it should be ok!!

me and my lil man are soo close hes my everything i love him to bits and dont want make him feel neglected! atm hes 20months so would be nearly 3 when lo would arrive

just needed to vent abit, thanks to anyone who got this far! any advice from anyone would be great or if anyone has had experience of introing #2 and how their lo was

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Old Dec 5th, 2010, 15:14 PM   2
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I don't have any practical advice as I don't even have one baby, but just wanted to send you ! I'm sure you will work it all out - things like this always seem worse in your head than they end up being in reality.

Though totally not the same, I had concerns about this when we got our first and then second dog, when we already had my cat, whom I've had since college. I was really worried about how he would react to not being "the only" pet, and how I'd manage giving equal attention, etc. And there was certainly an adjustment period, but now they are buds - as much as a grumpy middle age cat and a young dog can be And the attention thing worked itself out too...

So with all that said, try not to worry! I'm sure your son will love his baby brother/sister



 
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Old Dec 5th, 2010, 15:35 PM   3
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I can relate with how you feel and I would say that your feelings are normal.

I also worry about being pregnant as my LO is a boisterous little terror. But im sure it will be just fine and when Im huge and fronting a lovely plump nump, my LO will be gentle and careful, understanding there is a baby inside of mummy, waiting to be born, his little brother or sister. I will use the time I am pregnant to get him involved with the baby and choosing outfits ect so he can get excited with me and when the baby is here, well he LOVES doing chores so I am sure he will love to get involved in bath time ect. I think the key is to get them involved in the new baby, so that they do not feel second best, but like they are the best Big brother to look after their baby sibling.



 
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Old Dec 5th, 2010, 15:46 PM   4
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aw thanks ladies
i know my plan is to keep him as involved as he wants to be and make sure he has a understanding!! just got to stay positive and concentrate on the pros im glad im not the only one with my crazy feelings




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Old Dec 6th, 2010, 11:51 AM   5
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I could've wrote that post. I keep thinking what if my LO doesn't want this baby, doesn't like this baby, what if I can't handle two, what if we can't afford two. It's scary. But I keep telling myself, my LO will LOVE having a sibling, not all the time, probably not most of the time, but in the long run they'll be close! As far as not being ablet to cope, everyone else does! lol.



 
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Old Dec 7th, 2010, 02:19 AM   6
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thanks hun im starting to feel more positive OH just keeps telling me there 2 of us so if shakiel wants mummy time daddy will watch the baby and have their bonding time together plus theyre asleep alot of the time at the begining which gives shakiel time to get used to the baby im talking as if the babys on the way and were not even ttc




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