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Old Dec 7th, 2010, 20:54 PM   1
overthemoon
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I'm feeling a bit down


As our TTC date nears, I think OH is starting to freak out, and I'm worried he might change his mind. He hasn't said anything, but I see him get a little uncomfortable whenever I talk about babies. At first we laugh and talk about how we are going to raise them, but if we talk more than a minute about it, he seems to shift and tries to change the subject. What if he completely changes his mind? I don't know how I would handle that, I already got really excited...



 
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Old Dec 7th, 2010, 21:19 PM   2
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Hang in there. I am sure you both are experiencing a lot of emotions as the time draws closer. Maybe try not to talk about it too much. Instead try to talk about all the fun you are going to have making your baby!

Hope you feel over the moon again soon!



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Old Dec 7th, 2010, 22:02 PM   3
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Thank you, I suppose I do talk about it a bit too much. That must be pretty annoying... It's hard not to, but I will just come on here to share my excitement next time.



 
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Old Dec 7th, 2010, 22:14 PM   4
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I think it can be overwhelming for them... mine is getting annoyed hearing me always talk about it too! This is a good place to vent about all this baby stuff so that they dont feel too pressured!



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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 00:44 AM   5
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If it was me, I would just remind him it's not always an instant happening and even when you on the perfect days, there's only a 20% chance each month of getting pregnant. Of course I definitely hope you get pregnant very soon after WTTing , but it might help him calm down a little if he seems freaked by it.



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 01:06 AM   6
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If it was me, I would just remind him it's not always an instant happening and even when you on the perfect days, there's only a 20% chance each month of getting pregnant. Of course I definitely hope you get pregnant very soon after WTTing , but it might help him calm down a little if he seems freaked by it.
I totally agree with this!
Good luck.



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 12:42 PM   7
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Thanks everyone, I'm definitely glad I have you ladies to talk to.

I had a dream last night about a little boy who was my son in the dream. He was a year old, and was a very happy baby, smiling and raising his arms to me so I could carry him. I told OH about it, and he was happy! I'd only talked about having a girl, but after this dream I told him how cute it would be to get the baby clothes with his favorite sports teams on them. We then googled some really cute sports onesies. He became pretty excited. So as long as I don't bring it up obsessively, I think he will not freak out so much. He's also probably sick of hearing about little girl things.



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2010, 11:13 AM   8
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i know that my OH would be exactly the same as yours is.....(i admit i probably talk about babies too much but i dont really have anyone who knows how badly i want a child other than my OH and my folks....and of course u ladies ) as said above u might not fall pregnant right away, try to take his mind off it with all the rather than baby, baby, baby



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2010, 12:00 PM   9
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i find that my husband gets a little shifty if i talk babies. I said i had worked out how much i would drop on maternity pay and he started getting nervous saying about how much babies cost and where would we get the money for maternity. I reminded him about the large amount of money we have in savings and how i would be thrify with what i bought.

He mentioned that i could ask my pregnant friend for her maternity wear as she had it off another friend... i think he perked up a little then.

I think he worries and i worry but i plan.



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2010, 12:02 PM   10
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seems to be a mans job to worry about the practical things, they say "babies cost a fortune!!" yes they cost money but with some planning and not spending tons on things u dont need it can be done, but i dont think they listen to that



 
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