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Old Dec 18th, 2010, 16:42 PM   31
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I'm glad to hear it's not just me; sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy! One day I can focus on nothing other than picking baby names, prams, clothes... thinking about how amazing it would be to have my own child. As soon as the next day, it can make me feel terrified - I worry about how much would change; whether I would be able to cope with it and how it would effect my relationship with my partner. On the days where I stress about it I wonder whether it means that I'm not ready after all, but on one of my broody days its a struggle even to think of waiting until September!
OMG totally agree, I could have written this post myself



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Old Dec 19th, 2010, 05:34 AM   32
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OMG totally agree, I could have written this post myself
Aww I can't believe how many of us seem to be in the same situation, its lovely to realise I might actually still be sane!



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Old Dec 19th, 2010, 08:16 AM   33
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Oh yes this definitely sums up how I feel.

I obsess over names, and planning and looking at baby things but then at the same time freak out that I am not ready. On a practical level I suppose I am not ready- which is why I am WTT but psychologically I swing from yes let's do this! To no way, not yet! People I have known who are preg. or who have kids seem so cavalier about it but to me it's the biggest deal in the world and I am going to treat it like it is, lol.

In a way I also feel influenced by other people in that I look a good deal younger than I am and I get treated by a lot of people (patronised) like I am an awful lot younger than I am, which puts doubts in my own mind. I'm a terrible worrier too so none of this helps!



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Old Dec 19th, 2010, 09:20 AM   34
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i think it is pretty normal to feel nervous excitement about having a baby! and if you are feeling a lot of fear, hopefully time will help to lessen it - after all, we are all hanging out over here in WTT for one reason or another!

i also think the fear/anxiety is magnified if you have been convincing your OH a lot - it puts more responsibility on you: you're the one who has had to focus primarily on the positive, and you're the one who has guaranteed that it will work out well! so you may be more inclined to feel it will be your sole responsibility to get up at 3 am when baby is shrieking, etc. maybe?

for me/us, we've been "ready" in all ways except paying off debt for probably over a year or more - we are also not the youngest critters in the WTT forums (I am 27, DH is 36). thinking of myself at age, say, 22, i would have been teeerrriiiifffiiiiieed at the prospect of having a baby - but not now. even if you'd asked us a year ago, i think we would have had a lot more fear/anxiety than we do now! now, i don't really ever feel fear about it - just excitement !!!



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2010, 13:54 PM   35
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I'm glad to hear it's not just me; sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy! One day I can focus on nothing other than picking baby names, prams, clothes... thinking about how amazing it would be to have my own child. As soon as the next day, it can make me feel terrified - I worry about how much would change; whether I would be able to cope with it and how it would effect my relationship with my partner. On the days where I stress about it I wonder whether it means that I'm not ready after all, but on one of my broody days its a struggle even to think of waiting until September!
OMG totally agree, I could have written this post myself
Me too!! I am dying to start TTC - waiting until May seems so long but when I think how quick it will go it is quite scary!

We have been tempted many times to start trying earlier but we both want it to be completely happy when we do get pregnant and not overshadowed by family etc commenting on me being heavily pregnant whilst we get married (August 2011), and the practical implications of me finishing studying, us having time to find a bigger house etc it makes much more sense. May is the longest I can wait and even though it might mean I'd be a couple of months preggers we we get wed! Hope the next few months go quickly for all of us!! xx



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Old Dec 28th, 2010, 14:11 PM   36
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Me too!! I am dying to start TTC - waiting until May seems so long but when I think how quick it will go it is quite scary!

We have been tempted many times to start trying earlier but we both want it to be completely happy when we do get pregnant and not overshadowed by family etc commenting on me being heavily pregnant whilst we get married (August 2011), and the practical implications of me finishing studying, us having time to find a bigger house etc it makes much more sense. May is the longest I can wait and even though it might mean I'd be a couple of months preggers we we get wed! Hope the next few months go quickly for all of us!! xx
I know what you mean, May (September for me) seems so long away that on some days its almost painful... but on the other hand that time is going to go so quickly - especially when we're both planning for weddings!! When I think about how quickly the time has gone already since we set the date for our wedding I can't believe it! It'll definitely be here soon enough, and I think we'll be glad we waited



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Old Dec 28th, 2010, 14:41 PM   37
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i think its always worse when ur waiting for something to arrive, i over think things and time till then always seems to drag, i dont wanna wish my life away but i dont want to keep worrying "what if"



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2010, 23:47 PM   38
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Its NORMAL!!! This will be our 3rd TTC and I worry.



 
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Scary but exciting



 
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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 16:43 PM   40
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I am SO glad I found this post; I can totally relate and I'm glad other women out there can too.

It's like there's two sides of me--the logical and the emotional--and each of those two sides have two sides, the good and the bad. And all four of those parts of me continuously argue with each other...It's constant bickering in my head: "it will be so fun! but it could be super scary...or it will be really hard. but it will be so worth it in the end! but it will wreak havoc on your body! but who cares, you're creating life!"

Wow, i sound totally insane lol!



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