Forum Rules


Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old Dec 27th, 2010, 10:44 AM   1
laxgrl725
Waiting To Try (WTT)
New BnB member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 3

Worries! or should I relax?


Ok here is the deal...I have had precancerous cells for 3 years. I have already had LEEP and nothing is changing. I just sat down with my doctor and she believes that it would be a good idea to have children now due to our situation. My husband and I wil be married a year soon and he wants children but wants time for ourselves. He is in the military and will be deploying within the next year to Korea and will be gone for a year. I believe that if we dont start trying now I will miss my chance to have children. What happens if in 2 years I devlop cancerous cells? If I have another LEEP my chances decrease again for having a "normal" birth. My husband does not see the urgency that I do. He feels like Im trying to pressure him and I dont want to do that. But I also want him to see and plan for the future. I cant get pregnant while he is gone of course so if he doesnt want to TTC before then will it be too wait? Am I worrying too much? Should I relax? HELP!



Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 27th, 2010, 10:49 AM   2
odd_socks
Waiting To Try (WTT)
BnB Elite
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 10,611
firstly i think u have good reason to worry but i wouldnt over worry too much, its a tricky situation what is right and wrong, u both have to be in agreement. If ur doc is saying sooner rather than later i personally would be listening to that advice, they do know whats best. I dont know what to say whats best only u and ur hubby can decide that, sorry



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 27th, 2010, 11:05 AM   3
laxgrl725
Waiting To Try (WTT)
New BnB member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 3
it is just so hard because I dont want to "argue" over it or have this come between us. Having a baby is REALLY important to me and I dont know how to help him understand.



Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 27th, 2010, 11:18 AM   4
odd_socks
Waiting To Try (WTT)
BnB Elite
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 10,611
Quote:
Originally Posted by laxgrl725 View Post
it is just so hard because I dont want to "argue" over it or have this come between us. Having a baby is REALLY important to me and I dont know how to help him understand.

i kinda know how you are feeling, i have a back problem and my OH doesnt feel ready yet but its a case of i have to have kids sooner rather than later otherwise i wont be able to carry a child, my OH is a "glass is not only half full, its brimming over the time" kind of person and hes sure i will be able to have kids when HES ready, cases are i wont be able to but i dont wanna keep bringing it up cos i dont want to cause arguements its a difficult thing



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 28th, 2010, 14:36 PM   5
Welsh_mum2be
Pregnant (Expecting)
Active BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Cardiff, Wales.
Posts: 798
I think perhaps you should take your DH along to the docs with you, sometimes they need to hear it from a third party for it to really sink in. He may then realise that you need to TTC sooner rather than later esp if it comes from a doctor.

It must be a real worry for both of you, Hope this helps and good luck xxx



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 28th, 2010, 14:41 PM   6
Mom23monkies
 
Posts: n/a
Quote:
Originally Posted by Welsh_mum2be View Post
I think perhaps you should take your DH along to the docs with you, sometimes they need to hear it from a third party for it to really sink in. He may then realise that you need to TTC sooner rather than later esp if it comes from a doctor.

It must be a real worry for both of you, Hope this helps and good luck xxx
Dont count on it
He is a man and many men feel like ttc is a chore and just another responsibility
ALOT of men are just plain scared of it.
my SIL has lupus and was told she needed to start trying
she came off bc
her dh (my dh's brother) said he wasnt "trying"
She settled for NT NP
and is now preggers



 
Old Dec 28th, 2010, 15:52 PM   7
odd_socks
Waiting To Try (WTT)
BnB Elite
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 10,611
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mom23monkies View Post
Quote:
Originally Posted by Welsh_mum2be View Post
I think perhaps you should take your DH along to the docs with you, sometimes they need to hear it from a third party for it to really sink in. He may then realise that you need to TTC sooner rather than later esp if it comes from a doctor.

It must be a real worry for both of you, Hope this helps and good luck xxx
Dont count on it
He is a man and many men feel like ttc is a chore and just another responsibility
ALOT of men are just plain scared of it.
my SIL has lupus and was told she needed to start trying
she came off bc
her dh (my dh's brother) said he wasnt "trying"
She settled for NT NP
and is now preggers
I agree, my OH knows 100% that i cant wait too long cos of my back condition and he still thinks that i can wait, i also agree that men are plain scared



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 30th, 2010, 03:44 AM   8
toffee87
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: UK
Posts: 3,383
Talk to him about NTNP, and see what happens :-)



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Jan 13th, 2011, 14:12 PM   9
laxgrl725
Waiting To Try (WTT)
New BnB member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 3
thank everyone so much..i think im going to try to talk to him about NTNP so we can see what happens. It is so much pressure on the both of us that maybe it will help relax the situation as well. Thanks for commenting



Status: Offline
 

SEO by vBSEO