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Old Dec 27th, 2010, 15:09 PM   1
FluffySocks
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Is it normal to be scared?


I mean the only thing i want to achieve is a family. And we were planning to move to TTC for the new year.. but no matter how much i prepare things in my head i'm still scared to death of doing it in case something doesn't go to plan.

I'm one of those people that thinks too much about things and i'm better if things just happen rather than making a decision myself (hence a few accidently on purpose missed pills ), and obviously this is a life changing decision, but I think that if i wait for my brain to be happy and not be scared I'll regret not doing it sooner. Maybe its just normal for me to be like this? 'Cos i'm a natural worrier and its a big thing?

I feel a bit like i should be waiting for the "perfect time" but if i do, it could be years yet if ever, and I feel like i'm wasting time 'cos i'm ready now and have been for a long time, and i know that if i had one now i'd be able to manage.

Does anyone else feel like this? Or is it just me and my last minute nerves?



 
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Old Dec 27th, 2010, 15:13 PM   2
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I am nervous and my husband looks terrified. I think it is perfectly normal and i would be more worried if i wasnt scared.

My body is telling me it is time to have a baby but if i think about it too much then i start to panic! I dont have any advice but just that it is normal...i think!



 
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Old Dec 27th, 2010, 15:21 PM   3
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I am nervous and my husband looks terrified. I think it is perfectly normal and i would be more worried if i wasnt scared.

My body is telling me it is time to have a baby but if i think about it too much then i start to panic! I dont have any advice but just that it is normal...i think!
Ahhh it feels so nice to know that its not just me! My OH isn't as scared as me, but i think thats because i'm scared of being pregnant and he doesn't have to think about that lol i'd rather just a baby fall into my arms and still have the body i have now :P



 
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Old Dec 27th, 2010, 15:34 PM   4
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We are the same completly!!

We are both terrified! But at the same time we are ready!!

We arnt planning to TCC till june 2011, and i am forever finding reasons to think its not the perfect time, but then the other night we did the deed with no condom for the first and only time and now im in dream land that i could be pregnant!!



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Old Dec 27th, 2010, 15:34 PM   5
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I dont have a clue if its normal but i am absolutley terrified!! I keep telling myself it will be ok but i worry about things going wrong, i think ''what if we dont have enough money'' or ''what if i dont know what to do'' but every mummy has to do it at some point and people tell me that you automatically know how

We will be fine hun xx



 
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Old Dec 27th, 2010, 15:47 PM   6
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Ohhh i feel so much better now!
I know i'm just being silly, i keep thinking "what if i'm not healthy enough"... "what if i hate how my body looks after" ... "what if i dont have money" and then as soon as i come off my pill i suddenly lose all interest in BD and then if we do 'do it' all i do is worry :')

Ahhh dear!



 
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Old Dec 27th, 2010, 16:16 PM   7
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I'm desperate for a baby but when i finally see that bfp i will be sooooooo scared and prob not believe it. i think its normal



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Old Dec 28th, 2010, 09:42 AM   8
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GOOD GOLLY YES!!!!!
I am TTC #4 and am SCARED SENSLESS sometimes.
I am kinda in the boat of not waiting too long (See the Movie Idiocracy)
I have had three mcs in the last two years and am scared to ttc again, scared that I will never concieve, scared that I will and then loose it, scared that I will and there will be something the matter, scared that I am scared.
So how is that?? does that help anything??
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Old Dec 28th, 2010, 11:17 AM   9
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exactly the same, i only posted the same topic last month it scares me completely but i want it soooo much



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2010, 11:29 AM   10
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Oh yes, I think it's entirely normal. I am a BIG worrier too, and I also like to control things if I can, and those two things put together don't mix with having a a baby too well.

I'm worrying about lots of things: What if I can't conceive? What if it turns out that I can't cope (I'm getting stressed out managing a full time job and the house, how on earth will I manage those two things plus a little baby who is entirely dependent on me?!). I worry about the physical things that can go wrong. I worry about becoming obsessed with TTCand this impacting my marriage. And then, when I've worried about all of that, I worry about how much I'm worrying!

In the end it's on of those things you can want more than anything that also scare you more than anything ever could. If I REALLY think about it, I probably never would have a baby, but I really want to as well...

Lots of people manage it, in much less fortunate circumstances, that's what I tell myself, anyway.

It's so good to be able to talk about this stuff with other women!



 
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