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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 13:41 PM   11
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We got married on our 8th anniversary so not as much as 10 years!!! How far away are you?

How did I cope? Lots of crying, lots of begging, lots of really evil planning on how to get 'accidentally pregnant'. More begging.

Mainly I just kept thinking that I was the rash, impulsive fun one and that the reason me and OH worked well as a team was because he had values I didn't - being sensible and logical. And that together we will make great parents, I can't force him into it and that we should only do what is right for both of us and have kids when we are both ready.

I had to trust his judgement sometimes even though I hated it... I know that you can have children in any situation and be happy, but it's nice to us to know we're in the best possible place to provide for our babies-to-be.

What scares me is that I've wanted a baby for so long, people have always said I will make a good natural Mum, that I think it will be one of life's great ironies that I wont be able to have children....
I'm 17 months off the wedding. Long way to go! He proposed in December 2009 and we just liked the thought of getting married after 10 years of being together. What a STUPID, STUPID idea! Why would I want to wait?!! ...but then I wasn't this broody last year when we decided. It will be worth it to wait - the house we'll be able to get will be loads bigger and I'll be able to go part time (so we can move back home). So i'm doing the sensible thing.

It's just the days where I'm extra broody I start trying to negotiate a way out of doing the sensible thing and just go for it! I'd love a happy accident!! And so would the OH (we had a scare when I was about 20 and he was so good about it, turns out it was just exam stress making me late!).

I know exactly what you mean about worrying about not being able to have kids - but I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that as pretty much all the adult females in my family have children (or are pregnant) I should be ok too. I just need to learn patience!! And I'm sure you won't be waiting too long for your little one to come along.

Thanks for posting this, makes me realise that by waiting at least I know I'm ready for it (as much as you can ever be ready anyway!) x



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 01:53 AM   12
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Aww thanks pet!



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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 06:42 AM   13
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Its stories like this that make me realise WHY i'm waiting! Thank you, hope everything turns out well for you both xx
I agree with this! I now know we're being sensible waiting...



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 06:46 AM   14
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Definitely reassures me we're waiting for the right reasons. I also get tempted to miss pills etc lol.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 07:40 AM   15
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I gotta say it's stories like this that make me realize we made the right choice in waiting. We did do the NTNP thing for a month and as much as I wanted a little one, I couldn't help realize that we weren't ready. I want to be married, own a farm, have money saved up, get a better job/dbf bring in more money so I won't have to work. I want everything to be right. Sad thing is my nephews will be almost 6 and 4 at least before they get a cousin.



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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 11:01 AM   16
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Thank-you for starting this thread. I sometimes feel like I'm going mad with impatience (I am a true fire sign being a Leo AND born in the year of the tiger lol) and over Christmas/New Year this year it's been the 'worst' it ever has been.

It may not help that I had a M/C in Dec 2008 so I always feel a bit raw during the days between BD and NYE but it doesn't lessen my impatience. We are WTT purely because I just would like us to be married before we start TTC, no moral/religious reasons, it's just how I've always wanted it to happen.

I now feel a whole lot better about the decision that we've made to wait.....but roll on the end of the year so we can start TTC lol xx



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 13:24 PM   17
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Aww thats such a lovely post, thankyou for posting.
Wishing you all the best TTC and hope you get that BFP very soon xx



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 15:30 PM   18
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Glad it's helping some people. It does get hard when you don't know how you'll feel at the end. I wonder whether we could have starting TTC a year earlier and maybe if we felt "the time was right" we could have done - but now we know it's right it feels amazing.



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