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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 07:07 AM   1
maggie111
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It's worth it...


I've been waiting to conceive for years. I've wanted a baby from a very young age and met my now husband when we were 18. For years I've wanted to get married and have kids and he's wanted to wait... Till we were more mature, till our situation was more secure...

He was right. We got there in the end with a house, a wedding and our DIY and for 3 or 4 days we've been officially trying to conceive. It's so nice to do it right - with all our ducks in a row.

I've spent years getting broody, crying at the television, being extremely bitter every time I heard that someone was pregnant. Even dreaming about being bitter because I dreamt someone got pregnant! And if I'd known of this forum a month ago I'd have been posting all the time.

It's weird, I feel like I really belong in here, not in TTC. I'm scared that I might never move onto the pregnancy forum but for now I just thought I'd say hi to all you sensible people and say I'm proud of you for waiting to conceive.

I used to really hate being sensible and waiting and wish I was irresponsible and slipped a pill. But now I'm glad.



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 10:01 AM   2
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If you don't mind me asking, how old are you now?

I'm in a very similar situation to you - met OH when I was 17, we bought our first house when I was 20 but then I got a better job so had to move away from my family. We're now in a position where we have a nice house, good jobs, planning a wedding for our 10 year anniversary. So I could well have children now, but still have reasons to wait. It's just so frustrating!! Did you wait this long? And how did you not go mad?!!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! And good luck with TTC! x



 
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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 10:35 AM   3
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Its stories like this that make me realise WHY i'm waiting! Thank you, hope everything turns out well for you both xx



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 11:42 AM   4
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Aww im glad u feel the time is now right good luck with TTC

I wish i could wait until we were both ready, chances are by then my back will be too bad i wouldnt be able to have children.....then again i feel ready and my OH is slowly coming around to the idea lol doesnt stop me feeling scared about it all.

Good luck and thank you for the post, i think it will make some WTTer's feel much better about their wait



 
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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 12:36 PM   5
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Thank you for sharing. WTT is such a painful thing sometimes that we forget why we're doing it.

I hope you get your BFP soon!



 
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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 12:45 PM   6
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You are an inspiration hun. You really are. I'm in a similar situation to where you started and feel exactly the same. I'm so pleased to see a lovely success story to waiting. Thank you for showing me light at the end of the tunnel and the best of luck TTC, Pregnancy and Beyond!

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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 15:08 PM   7
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good luck!



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 16:56 PM   8
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Im with u. i get so annoyed with people who dont even want babies just being irresponsible and having them it makes me wonder why i wait and be sensible!!



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 18:14 PM   9
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it is worth it. no matter how much you want a kid right now you want to be able to provide for him of her when she does come into the world.

Good luck with it all and remember its for the best



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 06:32 AM   10
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Quote:
Originally Posted by notjustyet View Post
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you now?

I'm in a very similar situation to you - met OH when I was 17, we bought our first house when I was 20 but then I got a better job so had to move away from my family. We're now in a position where we have a nice house, good jobs, planning a wedding for our 10 year anniversary. So I could well have children now, but still have reasons to wait. It's just so frustrating!! Did you wait this long? And how did you not go mad?!!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! And good luck with TTC! x
We got married on our 8th anniversary so not as much as 10 years!!! How far away are you?

How did I cope? Lots of crying, lots of begging, lots of really evil planning on how to get 'accidentally pregnant'. More begging.

Mainly I just kept thinking that I was the rash, impulsive fun one and that the reason me and OH worked well as a team was because he had values I didn't - being sensible and logical. And that together we will make great parents, I can't force him into it and that we should only do what is right for both of us and have kids when we are both ready.

I had to trust his judgement sometimes even though I hated it... I know that you can have children in any situation and be happy, but it's nice to us to know we're in the best possible place to provide for our babies-to-be.

What scares me is that I've wanted a baby for so long, people have always said I will make a good natural Mum, that I think it will be one of life's great ironies that I wont be able to have children....



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