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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 13:40 PM   1
Cupcake11
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I want to be pregnant but probably shouldn't!


Hi all,

I am just after having a moan to people that understand!!

I came off pill in august this year as I had finally had enough of taking them and them making me anxious every 4 weeks!

We decided to use condoms till June 2011 when we would stop using contraceptive all together.

We decided on June as we are going to cyprus for a wedding where I am bridesmaid. I was very happy with decision and know that waiting till then for a few other reasons is best too.

Then on xmas eve we got carried away and didnt use contraception. Now my periods are all over place so not something I can go by so will have to take a test to see if I am pregnant.

Now I am pretty sure that I am not pregnant from this one time, but ever since we did this, its making me want soooo badly to be pregnant or at least really start trying! even though I know it really isnt the right time!

but i just keep thinking if that one time on xmas eve resulted in me being pregnant then there would be nothing we can do about it but be happy and go woth the flow!

I know i shouldnt be thinking this and Its getting me all confused and mixed up.

I feel like I am wanting something that I shouldnt yet!!

Does anyone understand what I mean?!xx



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 14:22 PM   2
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i know exactly how u feel chick
I was a week late afew months ago and i had the idea in my mind so much that i was pregnant i really wanted to be pregnant, even thou chances was i wasnt and wasnt really the right time. But then i got my AF and i was sooooo disappointed and upset that i wasnt pregnant



 
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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 15:30 PM   3
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its so depressing having to wait isnt it!! jus wish we could click our fingers when we are ready and bam preggers!! xx



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 17:15 PM   4
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i know i always want to be every month but im supposed to be waiting



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 17:30 PM   5
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I had the same thing happen to me last fall. I was 8 days late for my period and I was sure I was pregnant. DH and I had decided just a few weeks earlier we'd wait until this (2011) summer to start trying, but that pregnancy 'scare' got me so antsy to get pregnant. I wanted it so bad; but timing wise it wasn't practical.

So, we've decided to start trying NOW. A happy middle ground.



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 18:07 PM   6
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if you dont mind me asking, what is the reason you shouldn't be pregnant right now?
is it just because you have set a date to try? because thats not much of a reason not to be in my eyes.

if you are they congrats and if you aren't then just wait till you've planned even though it might seem years away and hard.



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 05:31 AM   7
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I feel so so confused! my head is everywhere to the point i want to cry!

The main reason to wait is because im being bridesmaid abroad in june 2011.

But there are other factors that make us unsure about trying, like living in a one bed flat with a mortgage in negative equity! Thats the main thing

But im off the pill for health reasons, and we hate condoms, and when bd it feels so right just to go for it, but then theres tis doubt too!

its eating me up! I just dont know what to do for the best anymore! and hubby is just as mixed up!




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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 17:57 PM   8
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I feel so so confused! my head is everywhere to the point i want to cry!

The main reason to wait is because im being bridesmaid abroad in june 2011.

But there are other factors that make us unsure about trying, like living in a one bed flat with a mortgage in negative equity! Thats the main thing

But im off the pill for health reasons, and we hate condoms, and when bd it feels so right just to go for it, but then theres tis doubt too!

its eating me up! I just dont know what to do for the best anymore! and hubby is just as mixed up!




Thats how this all started for me too. My totm was late and I had alot of symptoms (still dont know if im pg yet) but ever since then, i've wanted it more and more, and with every BFN test, it makes it worse.

I'm not prepared for a baby either, we have a 2 bedroom flat, our little girl is in a room herself, her room is a dbl room and could fit in 2 if needed.

There's always a way round things, and remember - baby will be in with you and OH untill around 6 months old anyway, so say for example if you fell pg jst now, thats nearly a year and a half til you'd need to worry about a seperate room.

Its alot easier to let it happen rather than plan it. We always wanted another, but there was always something holding us back...like money/lack of space ect ect. One bit of advice i got was....there is never gona be a "right time" when trying for a baby. Its right to be sensible, but your probably never gona have everything in your life perfect coz something will turn up.

Oh and, when I was pg, we were in a rented house, 2 wk before baby due, the police turned up at the door - we were being evicted...the landlord hadn't bn paying his mortgage and the mortgage provider had to sell up - we had to go on the homeless list, and luckily we got this place, which has ended up alright - it works out in the end...it always does.




 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 18:25 PM   9
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Me and my DH decided we wanted to start trying a year before we actually did as we wanted to get married first. It was more practical for financial and other reasons to wait a year for the wedding.

It was sooooooooo hard waiting and we did have 1 or 2 'accidents' as we don't like condoms either. It did however give me plenty of time to come off the pill and allow my body to get back into a natural cycle (which took 10 months!)

I am now on my 4th month of TTC (which already feels like forever!) and although I would have still been over the moon if I had become pregnant by accident I am glad we didn't start trying properly. It so easily turns into an obsession and kind of takes over your life and we had enough stuff already to deal with!!

6 months really isn't that long and if your concern about being a bridesmaid is not being able to travel or fit in to a dress I don't think you have to worry about that until your about 3 months pregnant so you could start trying a bit earlier??




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