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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 17:43 PM   1
josephine3
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friends dont understand


soooo.... my friends all know i am a bit baby mad and would love one, but when i was sort of saying i would like one in the near future they all didnt understand, shook their heads and said i was too young. ( Im 24!!) i just want a family they want to party. i do too, but with my baby in tow !!

p.s. most of my friends are in thier lste 20's to mid 30's and have no children


they dont get it!!



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Old Dec 29th, 2010, 17:58 PM   2
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dont let it get you down. People are diffreret.
All the people that told me i wasn't ready to be a mum are all still going out and getting drunk. Its how they want to live their life, this is how i wat to live mine.

You'll have one when the time is right, dont worry about that



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 03:39 AM   3
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I only have one friend that understands, the rest are too set in their ways really. I wouldn't listen to what they say, do what you want!



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 03:54 AM   4
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I knew broody21 might have seen this thread! she is the only friend that really understands. We often get together at each others houses to vent our broodiness!

I know how you feel - it really seems like everyone thinks you're mad for wanting to start a family. The most common response is "but we're so young!" In reality, mid 20s isn't young to have a baby!

Don't worry, there are plenty of ladies on here that understand

Beth x



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 04:02 AM   5
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Once upon a time, having a baby after 25 made you an 'elderly prim' Some women are just wired differently, and their biological clock doesn't start ticking till later. Or they are so consumed with their careers/living the high life, they don't admit to themselves they want a family. Or wouldn't openly admit to others that they do. We all live life at different paces, and reach different stages at different times. A lot of my friends have had children, some planned, some unplanned, but there are still quite a few who are nowhere near that stage yet. Don't worry about it xxx



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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 06:01 AM   6
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awww thanx guys i knew u'd understand!! would just be nice to have a real life friend to chat to about wtt or ttc.... i got some right funny looks when i decided to tell them its possible to influence the sex of ur baby and how!!!! i thought it was interesting! they did not!



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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 06:37 AM   7
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I've been a couple of years ahead of my friends for a while now. I had a serious boyfriend whilst they were just "pulling" (IYKWIM!), got engaged before they had thought about it and so on.... They catch you up eventually. And sometimes it's nice to forget about your boring responsibilities and have a bit of fun with them!!



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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 08:19 AM   8
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Each person is different and thats what makes the world go round as they say. I have a similar problem but the other way round kind of, all my friends have children and they know I'm ready to have my own but don't understand why I need to wait just a little bit long. All of our priorities are different thats all. Don't know if this helps but I thought a different view may just make it a bit easier. XXX



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 10:15 AM   9
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I'm facing a similar situation. Only one of my friends supports my decision to have a baby before the age of 30. Most of my friends and all of my family think I'm insane and completely dismiss me when the baby subject is breached. In fact, one of my oldest friends recently sent me a text (like she didn't have the guts to be mean to my face?) that said "Are you crazy?! Why would you wish for a baby right now? It's going to ruin your life. You're going to be one of 'those girls' who never accomplishes a real career because you just HAD to get married and pop out kids. ANYONE can do that. Not everyone can have a Masters degree."
That's literally word for word what she said!
But I've come to realize that every person is different and has different priorities. Even though finding out she's pregnant right now would be the end of her world, it would not be the end of mine. To each their own, I guess. But I'm nice enough to not bash others for taking their life in a different direction than mine.



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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 11:19 AM   10
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just ignore what other people think, my friends dont understand either, they all have kids and think im mad for wanting one they dont understand why i crave sooo much to be a mom, ive never been into drinking and clubbing so i want to settle with my OH



 
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