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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 15:16 PM   1
Cupcake11
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Please talk sense into me!!


In a nut shell, I want a baby!!

BUT there are so many good reasons not to TTC at the moment, yet my heart keeps trying to force me to want a baby instead!!

Reasons to wait!

Being bridemsmaid abroad in may 2011
Want to go on holidays!
want to buy a bigger place which cant be done yet due to negative equity!!

Reasons to TTC

Cuz i want too!!!!

Tell me to stop being stupid please as im getting so confused and its getting me down!

Hubby feels same as me!!



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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 15:24 PM   2
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i know what u mean its sooooo hard when u want it so badly and ur practical side of ur mind knows u cant, it doesnt get any easier im afriad



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 16:29 PM   3
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what do you think I should do? I know you can't answer for me, but what would you do? argh!



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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 16:39 PM   4
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I know exactly what you mean. I have a huge list of reason not to TTC but I just want to so badly. I've kind of decided that if it happens, it happens. If not, it's not horrible.
There's never going to be a "perfect" time to have a baby, for me at least. So I'm going to make the best of it whenever it does happen for me.
I hope that helps. Probably not... lol



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 17:26 PM   5
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It's okay. Usually I go through moments like that. The strong feelings inevitably go in waves. Just stay focused on your short-term goals and remember...sometimes accidents happen :-)



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Old Dec 30th, 2010, 18:08 PM   6
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Your defo not being stupid, its a natural instinct for a woman to want a baby.




 
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Old Dec 31st, 2010, 01:27 AM   7
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i personally feel that there will never be a perfect time. I had my 1st 9months after our wedding, money was tight, i werent working..but we said we'll manage and we have done
Alot of family members didnt agree and said 'you should have waited until you were settled a little more'
But its the best thing weve done.
Im now wtt number 2, feb time hopefully and again things want be perfect as were moving home to a bigger and much more expensive homee..but there will never be a perfect time in my opinion.



 
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Old Dec 31st, 2010, 03:07 AM   8
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Cupcake - while there will never be a perfect time, for a lot of people there is a point where life becomes a lot easier to do it.

I too struggle not to give in, and in my weaker moments give in, mu hubby has faith I won't because he know once I snap out of it I'll remember how perfect it'll be when we have a house big enough, and how much I'd regret being a pregnant bm at my sisters wedding etc etc.

You have to make your own mind up, as for the house, prob depends whether you feel you could have a baby there at the min, without it being a nightmare!

Xx



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Old Dec 31st, 2010, 08:23 AM   9
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I agree with short term goals too. The wedding isn't far away, you want to have as much fun as possible... so thats a reason (and to look cute in the dress!)

We also want to go on a holiday before TTC so I figure we can launch our 'Conception Tour 2012' with a vacation LOL. But you could still travel when you're early enough in your pregnancy so that's not too scary. Unless you want to go someplace that needs a load of vaccines like me.

Stick with it, start a journal and start a few tickers



 
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Old Dec 31st, 2010, 09:20 AM   10
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Try and focus on all those things that your going to be doing before you start trying(travelling,the wedding).These are all things that you'll enjoy doing and ttc is on the horizon so you know it will happen.If you start ttc now then theres a chance that you may not be able to attend your friends wedding or go on holiday as you might be too far gone in your pregnancy or may not feel up to travelling.
So enjoy your hols and the wedding x



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