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Old Jan 2nd, 2011, 17:14 PM   1
TOW23
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What should I think? TMI


I know this may be TMI, but DH always-religiously uses a condom while using BCP or not. He is so paranoid. So the last couples of times he has "forgotten" to use them. He acts as though he feels bad about it after wards, but it's happened more than once so I'm not sure what to make of it. We aren't to TTC until May. I don't want to question him about it, because he may continue to do it if I keep my mouth shut. I do not want him to know I'm on to him LOL. I wouldn't be playing into it so much if it wasn't so out of character for him. Is he *hoping* for an accident ? What should I think of this? I know this may be TMI, but I HAD to ask!



 
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Old Jan 2nd, 2011, 17:20 PM   2
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It may possibly be that he is hoping for an accident. But on the other hand you seem happy with the whole idea of ttc so wouldnt he just be open about it.

What were your reasons for waiting (if you dont mind me asking)



 
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Old Jan 2nd, 2011, 17:43 PM   3
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He wanted to wait until he had a higher college degree and had a few more years on him. He said we were too young but he had previously stated 25 is a good age. He'll be 25 in 2 weeks, I'll be 24 in 1 week . As many women do, I was waiting on him.

We live comfortably now, supporting a baby should not be a problem for us.

I am so happy we have finally agreed on a date, and I wondered if this is his way of saying he wants to try earlier, but doesn't want to admit it...



 
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Old Jan 2nd, 2011, 17:56 PM   4
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I know this may be TMI, but DH always-religiously uses a condom while using BCP or not. He is so paranoid. So the last couples of times he has "forgotten" to use them. He acts as though he feels bad about it after wards, but it's happened more than once so I'm not sure what to make of it. We aren't to TTC until May. I don't want to question him about it, because he may continue to do it if I keep my mouth shut. I do not want him to know I'm on to him LOL. I wouldn't be playing into it so much if it wasn't so out of character for him. Is he *hoping* for an accident ? What should I think of this? I know this may be TMI, but I HAD to ask!
that (above, bold) is what would concern me... you also don't want to become pregnant by accident and then have him be mad about it!! i would probably talk to my DH if something like that happened... i just don't want there to be anything bad associated with conceiving!!



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 02:48 AM   5
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I agree you should talk to him - maybe he would be ok with NTNP? But maybe he's just decided as your on BCP it should be fine!!

Men eh?!!! Lol. Xx



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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 11:44 AM   6
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i wish my fella thought that way lol if he was happy not to use protection then id certainly hope for a happy accident



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 12:51 PM   7
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If you are going to have a little accident just make sure you're taking your folic acid hun - have fun xx



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 16:19 PM   8
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Are you currently on the BCP? Maybe he's decided to trust that the BCP will work - which when taken properly is quite reliable. I wouldn't necessarily read into it that he wants a "happy accident" to occur.. You should maybe talk to him about it first, before jumping to any conclusions.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2011, 20:14 PM   9
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hmm or maybe he is using this as a transition from BCP + condoms, to just BCP, to NTNP? may just be a mental thing for him? ( i had skimmed over the part about you being on BCP!)



 
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