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Old Jan 9th, 2011, 17:19 PM   11
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I've set aside time to talk seriously with him but when that didnt work I took a friends advice and started 'dating' again. It was great idea, we had a meal and talked randomly, went to the cinema together for escapism, giggled lots afterwards and then booked an impulse trip to Italy, I'm in love again xxxx
That sounds like a lovely idea. I bet it is nice to spend sometime together and forget your worries.

I love italy, it is very romantic. Where are you going to?



 
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Old Jan 9th, 2011, 17:58 PM   12
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Hi mrs m,

Am brand new to this and strangely the first post i read was yours and we are in a very similar situation!
I joined cos im suffering after a m/c 2 weeks ago, i was almost 10 weeks. My partner very worried about us having sex again ever i think!! He also very reluctant to tr again whereas i want to in a few months, we need to spice up our sex anyway and this has just made it so much worse!!

he is worried about me getting preg again, although i want to give it a bit of time i dont want to leave it ages! he thinks my body needs a long time to recover etc etc....MEN!!

Your romantic trip sounds like a great plan!
Good luck xxxx



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Old Jan 10th, 2011, 01:20 AM   13
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I've set aside time to talk seriously with him but when that didnt work I took a friends advice and started 'dating' again. It was great idea, we had a meal and talked randomly, went to the cinema together for escapism, giggled lots afterwards and then booked an impulse trip to Italy, I'm in love again xxxx
That sounds like a lovely idea. I bet it is nice to spend sometime together and forget your worries.

I love italy, it is very romantic. Where are you going to?
It's in northern Lazio (just over an hour from Rome) we've had a little holiday home there for about 4 yrs. It's our little hideaway

Have you been to Italy before? I've been to Rome, Siena, Puglia, Liguria, Tuscany and Umbria but I know Northern Lazio the best.

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Old Jan 10th, 2011, 01:23 AM   14
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Hi mrs m,

Am brand new to this and strangely the first post i read was yours and we are in a very similar situation!
I joined cos im suffering after a m/c 2 weeks ago, i was almost 10 weeks. My partner very worried about us having sex again ever i think!! He also very reluctant to tr again whereas i want to in a few months, we need to spice up our sex anyway and this has just made it so much worse!!

he is worried about me getting preg again, although i want to give it a bit of time i dont want to leave it ages! he thinks my body needs a long time to recover etc etc....MEN!!

Your romantic trip sounds like a great plan!
Good luck xxxx
Thank you Cath and welcome to BnB, i'm very sorry for your loss

I've found it quite hard to get the intimacy back but then all of a sudden it happened very spontaneously last night! I didn't expect it at all, but I'm so pleased it was at OH's instigation!

Check out some of my other posts in MC section, everyone here has been so supportive during and after my MC, don't know what I've had done without this site.

Good luck TCC your 2011 baby, try to be relaxed about getting intimate again, it'll come in its own time xxxx




 
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Old Jan 10th, 2011, 06:30 AM   15
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I have family who live in the marche region so I have holidays there ever year.
I have also been to Rome and pisa. I am a big fan of Italy, it is so perfect.

I'm sure you will have a great time.



 
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Old Jan 10th, 2011, 09:16 AM   16
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i've been through it three times now (2nd time was with twins). Experienced the same thing were OH was being really distant. I just told him that being distant made me feel worse and that even if he didnt want to do anything, I still needed to be cuddled and held etc.

Just let him know that you don't mind the waiting and that all you want is him to hold you. That way you get the intimacy back and then let nature take it's course. trying to force it won't work.



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Old Jan 11th, 2011, 15:50 PM   17
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I have family who live in the marche region so I have holidays there ever year.
I have also been to Rome and pisa. I am a big fan of Italy, it is so perfect.

I'm sure you will have a great time.
Excellent, I haven't been to Le Marche region before but my friend visits family in Senigallia which is on the coast in Le Marche. We keep trying to coordinate our holidays so that we can go over there and see him while we're both in Italy.

I really love Italy too, feel at my happiest when we're there xxxx



 
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Old Jan 11th, 2011, 15:52 PM   18
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i've been through it three times now (2nd time was with twins). Experienced the same thing were OH was being really distant. I just told him that being distant made me feel worse and that even if he didnt want to do anything, I still needed to be cuddled and held etc.

Just let him know that you don't mind the waiting and that all you want is him to hold you. That way you get the intimacy back and then let nature take it's course. trying to force it won't work.
Thank you hun, I'm so sorry for all of your losses I truly hope you get your sticky bean in 2011. Thank you for your advice xxxx



 
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