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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 15:10 PM   1
justinel1982
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Is it Hard with two?


Hi everyone

I'm new too this and just wondered if anyone could offer some advice. I have a gorgeous little boy, he'll be two in March. Me and Hubby have talked about trying for another soon but i'm scared i won't be able too cope with two, i love my son so much. Will i be able to love another the same. and is it as hard as i imagine to have a toddler and a newborn. xx



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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 15:33 PM   2
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I'll be interested to see what people say in answer to this! Our little girl is 6 months and we plan on ttc our second when she's 10 months. I have the same feelings you do in regards to loving your lo so much you fear you couldn't love another as much. Some people tell me I'm crazy to want two so close but I have lots of friends who have had their lo's even closer than what we plan and they've said it's easier having them very close and two 'babies' as such. My cousin had her second when her first was 4 and said it was hell on earth and she'd have much rather had her second when her first was around 2. I'm sure lots of people will have different opinions but I figure I never thought I'd cope with one but I do, somehow I know I'd cope with a second! Lol!

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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 15:38 PM   3
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I was worried about that too when I was pregnant with DS. My DD is 7 now and my DS is almost 20 months. You always worry if you will be able to love another child just as much because you feel as if you already love your one child so much you cant imagine there being any left to love another.
Thing is, I believe your heart grows and therefore you are capable of loving another child just as much. Once my DS was born, I knew loving him wouldnt be a problem at all. LOL
I had just as much love for him as I did my DD.
I will say, I'm not sure what its like having two that young, as my daughter is a bit older and helps me out some. Theres not a lot she can do but she helps out where she can. Shes an amazing big sister. But, having two, for me, isnt harder, its just different. I love it and wouldnt change it for the world.



 
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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 15:48 PM   4
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i dont know personally but my mum told me (cos it worried me too when we get started) that it was nice having my two brothers close together (a year and one month between them) cos my eldest brother helped when my parents change younger brothers nappy and bath times he helped too. I think its not going to be "easy", it will have its testing times like it is with one child. I think its different for each family, and how people cope differently....sorry i cant help



 
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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 15:55 PM   5
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Hiya thank you all so much for your replies, don't feel so worried now knowing that it's a perfectly normal feeling lol. It seems quite natural to have these feelings. Well who knows, maybe i'll be talking about "am i or i am not on here soon. Thanks for being welcoming. xx



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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 16:00 PM   6
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Youre welcome hun, and I wish you all the luck in the world!

I'll be looking out for your 'am I or aren't i' post soon! Lol!

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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 16:15 PM   8
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to all.

Speak soon.

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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 18:55 PM   9
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I think for me that it was easier when I had my second. With my first I had no idea what I was getting in to. With the second I was ready. I got pregnant with my second the month my oldest turned 2. I did have 2 in diapers for a month or so. My oldest was very demanding I guess would be the word and when I had my second he seemed to calm down some. It was so nice. As far as enough love to go around. It is so weird how things work out. For me I love them each differently! My oldest has a heart of gold and always wants to talk and be loved on. My youngest, his little face will just melt my heart. My youngest is the one with Down Syndrome and needs me more. Its not that I love him more he just needs more of me. My oldest is my helper and he feels important when he feels needed and just a simple son your doing a good job or could you fix the whatever and he is so willing to help and it makes his day. I dont know you just cannot explain it but there is ALWAYS enough love to go around!!!!! We also try to do a WILL day or a Briar day. We take them somewhere they want to go with just mom and dad. Just be positive, always let them know you love them! AGAIN there is always enough love to go around.



 
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Old Jan 6th, 2011, 19:11 PM   10
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From my experience, if you have a routine and stick to it, you should find it rather easy. I have 6 babies. I had never wondered about it though i knew i wanted more and never came across my mind if i could cope or not. I knew i was mean to be a mom of plenty. I love it. I dont see my life with just one or even 6, i want more. (i know crazy,right?)
Some only do well with one, but only you can make your life what you want it to realistically be. I found that if you stick to routine and have organised a way to handle two at once, it really and honestly comes together. I have different feelings about each of my children, i love them in different ways. Each are so different, so unique, i just love them so much.



 
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