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Old Jan 20th, 2011, 12:27 PM   21
dozydormouse
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Personally I'm going to try really hard not to go beyond 2 (if I manage to get pregnant at all- wouldn't want to jinx anything!) even if I desperately want another. But that's just me! Everyone's entitled to make their own decisions. Lots of baby dust to those wishing...



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Old Jan 20th, 2011, 12:45 PM   22
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We have 4 children but sadly lost Eve 3 years agoso have 3 living children. Have only told a couple of close friends we are going to TTC this year as my Mum has said many a time that 3 is more than enough and gone on about expense, room etc...anyone ese has similar comments?? xxxxxx
My mom is just the same ! DH keeps riling her up by saying we will try for another and she is never sure if he's joking (we've got three boys.) I would love to have one more, but not sure if we can afford it



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2011, 09:58 AM   23
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i have 3, and after Leyla i said no more (she was the heaviest) but recently ive had that feeling again. OH keeps joking to relatives 5 is a nice number but i dont know if he is joking? or being serious.



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Old Jan 21st, 2011, 14:33 PM   24
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Loraloo, I am in the same boat as you. Well kinda. I have three beautiful daughters aged 8,5 and 4. when I delievered my third i was separated from my husband and my family was helping me. My grandma forced me into a tubal ligation. I didn't want it then but they would have cut me off completely if I hadn't. Since then (four years ago) we have gotten back together and have become an even stronger family unit than we ever were. I want a tubal reversal and have only talked briefly with my mom about it since she also had a reversal. she doesn't agree with my decision. she thinks i'll regret it. three is enough.
no, for me three isn't enough. So i do understand. and when i have my reversal it will be a secret kept between my husband and I. If you want kids and have the love patience and funds to do so then it should be no one's decision other than yours. I hope that you get a BFP.



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2011, 14:36 PM   25
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I say have kids until you feel your complete with the ones you have because you will never regret having a child but will probably regret not having one you thought of having.
I agree. There is no regretting a baby that you wanted especially when you get to hold your bundle of joy for the first time. my mom had me very young and then waited 11 years to have my brother. I wanted siblings and grew up with limited kids around me. It's my hearts desire to have a big family and I think it may not happen.



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2011, 14:38 PM   26
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My mom is just the same ! DH keeps riling her up by saying we will try for another and she is never sure if he's joking (we've got three boys.) I would love to have one more, but not sure if we can afford it [/QUOTE]

I've always heard the saying that if you wait until you can afford them then you will wait forever. You just do the best that you can with what God has given you.

Good luck to you all!



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2011, 16:07 PM   27
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i have 4 kids 3 boys and a girl and for some reason i really want to have another. im exacly the same with people saying "u have enough" or "thats plenty" my sil wrote " you can stop now" in the card she gave me when kassie was born which really upset me . oh agreed we could have another and it would be our last which i was fine with. but like u im letting what other people are saying get to me.



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2011, 21:48 PM   28
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A lady near me has 6 children, shes happy, her children are happy, whats the harm? You have more than enough love to give, and can meet their needs, so theres nothing to say you shouldnt have more. x
I think, I feel guilty for Amy...cos she's just that bit extra special n our rainbow baby, I just feel some people think we should be grateful for what we have. And I truly am, but I cANT HELP MY Maternal instincts People make me feel bad for wanting ! Kids are all I ever wanted.. just wish people would understand xxxxxxxxx
I completely understand Lora. My sister in law keeps telling me that at 34 (almost 35) that I shouldn't start over. My boys are 15 (almost 16) and 13. However, she just had her 6th child at age 40... Not sure what to make of her opinions.



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Old Jan 23rd, 2011, 14:14 PM   29
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I have had this today!! I was dropping hints to my mother to see what her views was on us having another, and I got " you dont need anymore!" no mother I dont need anymore but the wanting another is taking over my life!!

We have 6 children between us and I still feel the need for another. I personally have only 2 boys but have 4 stepkids who are constantly here. dont let anyoe tell you when you've had enough - if you are supporting them emotionally and financially it is your business and your business only!! go for it girl!



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2011, 16:20 PM   30
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Why is it anyone else's business what it costs and how much space you need for 4+ children? I hate it when people harp on about things like that, when it doesn't concern them You do what you want to do; I think big families are wonderful



 
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