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Old Jan 18th, 2011, 15:47 PM   11
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yeah i find that it comes in waves too, some days are really bad like today and others i feel like i cud cope a little longer to wait is so hard though i hate feeling this way



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2011, 01:14 AM   12
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Definately in waves!!!!! I an going through a good spell at the minute!! Really focussing on all the pre TTC stuff I want, losing weight and moving house. When m really busy I don't think about it as much - well as long as I dnt see a child under 3 - then it's not good at all however busy I am!!!!

Do your oh's friends have kids? Just wondering if their worried as they are not sure how it will change things!!? My impression is it limits you going out, away etc. Luckily my oh is fine with having one! :-) xx



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Old Jan 19th, 2011, 03:22 AM   13
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I too have the whole broodiness going into just feeling damn right blue and sad for the last 2 days just keep finding myself welling up about it all and then I feel like maybe I am going mad but I just want to be a mummy soooo much
My OH doesn't understand the strong need for me to want a baby at all



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2011, 05:52 AM   14
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I got so down waiting for my husband to be ready. Some days I almost felt suicidal because I was so down.

I tried to keep my feelings away from my dh as I didn't want to pressure him. He did know though and I think he realised that although things would change with a baby that even without a baby our relationship would be different.

I was sad when we had to put back out ttc date and cried on and off for a week but I'm mostly ok now though I'm sure another wave will come next month.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2011, 07:21 AM   15
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I am like this too. I am so broody it is unbelievable and its really getting me down cos stupid OH left me 7 weeks ago so now there is no end in sight. We were meant to be TTC in June. Everytime I see a small baby I want to cry and watching One Born the other day I was sobbing lol.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2011, 11:08 AM   16
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Definately in waves!!!!! I an going through a good spell at the minute!! Really focussing on all the pre TTC stuff I want, losing weight and moving house. When m really busy I don't think about it as much - well as long as I dnt see a child under 3 - then it's not good at all however busy I am!!!!

Do your oh's friends have kids? Just wondering if their worried as they are not sure how it will change things!!? My impression is it limits you going out, away etc. Luckily my oh is fine with having one! :-) xx


They dont yet but his best friend is expecting iin afew months and afew other people he knows are expecting next month. I dont think it'll change how he feels



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2011, 03:59 AM   17
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I'm so relieved that I'm not the only one. Yesterday was my first day on the BnB website and I felt like July/August was a lifetime away and DH just doesn't understand that. It's hard because my DH is really excited about TTC on our wedding anniversary (27th July) and I can see his point, it will be special but I just can't wait that long!! So he wants to talk about it all the time and look at things on the net and plan stuff but I can't until I know we are TTC, is that really selfish of me? I feel selfish.
Odd Socks: My DH's best friend had a baby a year and a half ago, before then he wouldn't contemplate starting a family because he didn't think we were ready, as soon as the LO came along and he had a cuddle he started coming round to the idea and it was his idea to set a TTC date, so there is hope yet for you possibly
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Old Jan 23rd, 2011, 04:59 AM   18
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the broodyness is really setting in at the moment for me too , i find my self thinking all the time about babys and being pregnant ,
im about to move into a new house in a week or so , im hoping that will take my mind of it for a bit . ill have loads to do in new house , decorating kids new schools n so on ,
so maybe all us who have to wait tt should occupie our minds on something else , easier said than done hey ,
The fact that as soon as i open my eyes in the morning i wanna get up and go on this site , beens im pretty obsessed with this whole wanting a baby ha ha xxxx



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2011, 11:06 AM   19
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I'm so relieved that I'm not the only one. Yesterday was my first day on the BnB website and I felt like July/August was a lifetime away and DH just doesn't understand that. It's hard because my DH is really excited about TTC on our wedding anniversary (27th July) and I can see his point, it will be special but I just can't wait that long!! So he wants to talk about it all the time and look at things on the net and plan stuff but I can't until I know we are TTC, is that really selfish of me? I feel selfish.

Odd Socks: My DH's best friend had a baby a year and a half ago, before then he wouldn't contemplate starting a family because he didn't think we were ready, as soon as the LO came along and he had a cuddle he started coming round to the idea and it was his idea to set a TTC date, so there is hope yet for you possibly
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thanks chick, i hope he changes his mind, i think right now his mind is on other things....who knows though ay

I hope ur wait until July doesnt drag for u too much, i know its hard having to wait, i have days where i feel real crap like its never going to happen for me, i still feel that way tbh but i dunno what else i can do but wait



 
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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 22:14 PM   20
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lol i think mines scared too but hes the only person i can really vent to, if i dont talk to him about it he thinks ive forgotten all about being broody as he thinks us women can do, even thou we cant
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was going through that same thing. I would cry and cry. OH thought I could just forget about it, but I couldn't. He's the only person I can really vent to as well, and doing so would just end up in us fighting. He just wasn't quite there yet. All my friends either did NOT want kids yet, or were pregnant or had kids, so I couldn't really talk to them. I thought I would just implode. I wanted him to listen to my feelings, and he wanted me to stop because he felt pressured.

For us it was that we were in such an amazing place, and he didn't want to mess it up, but I thought it was the perfect time to start a family. He was also really scared because he has a friend who has been with his lady for 14 years and they have kids and are constantly fighting. Other people he knows have broken up soon after having a baby. He really didn't want to lose me.

I started to tell him about the pleasant dreams I had about us having a baby, and he thought they sounded nice. I don't know if talking about those dreams, and verbally painting pretty pictures of our family started to convince him more, or if it just happened naturally
But I also did a heavy load of praying.

I hope he comes around and things work out for you... really really soon =)



 
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