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Old Jan 19th, 2011, 16:46 PM   1
wishandwant
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Eptopic :(


Hi, im new on the forum. I recently (4 days ago) found out I was pregnant and that it was an eptopic one all in the space on an hour!

Although the pregancy wasnt planned Im really upset that my babys gone. I was 2 months pregnant and didnt know.

Anyway I dont know what to do now, Im so upset that I lost this baby and dont know whether that means I really want a baby and should try again. But then I think that this happened for a reason and this is gods way of telling me I shouldnt have a baby.

Ive always really wanted kids but not sure when.

this prob doesnt make any sense, but wanted to say hi and see what you thought!

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Old Jan 19th, 2011, 21:18 PM   2
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Hey there! Thanks for sharing.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've never been through that, so I don't know what it's like, but I imagine that is awful. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

No one knows if it is meant to be or not for you to have a baby soon, but what I think is that maybe now is a good time for some soul searching about what you DO want and also talk with your partner about what he wants. Now is the time to share your feelings and how this experience has made you feel. Think about it and if this experience has made you realize that your ready for a baby, or if you want to wait for a while. I hope this helps.



 
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Old Jan 20th, 2011, 06:20 AM   3
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Thanks, it helps to get advice from others and I really appreciate your advice! My heads just all over the place. Im not sure that this would be the right time to have a baby, but then i think when will? i doubt it'll ever be 100% the right time!

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Old Jan 20th, 2011, 11:37 AM   4
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aww sorry for ur loss my cousin had eptopic pregnancy too and shes gone on to have 3 gorgeous little boys i think maybe u should wait just until u have gotten over the shock and try again when u feel ready x



 
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Old Jan 20th, 2011, 14:29 PM   5
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So sorry you had to experience that It's been 10 months to the day since I lost my wee one due to ectopic.
I was in a similiar situation, at that time, pregnancy was NOT planned and I had only known for 5 days before an emerg scan and then surgery. It's devistating, whether you've planned or not. Personally, I do think that everything happens for a reason, but I haven't thought for a second that it happened because I'm not meant to have kids.
I think you're right though, you'll never be 100% when the "right time" is, I still go back and forth at times. If I could right now, I'd be TTC, but I think I'd still have some doubts.. seeing a bfp, I know things would change and it'd feel like the "right time" instantly
Take your time to heal physically and emotionally



 
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