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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:11 PM   1
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Hello! Do you think there will ever be a right time?


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I am not currently trying to conceive although about a year and a half ago we were trying with no luck.

Now I am wondering if i am nearing the right time but always have doubts of whether we could live off of my husbands salary alone. Does anyone else really worry about this and how they could afford to be off work/manage the demands of childcare later on?



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:16 PM   2
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my OH always worries about that kind of stuff, i dont want to put off TTC much longer for health reasons but i think if we personally was to wait untill we had lots of money it would never happen for us...not that my OH believes that lol



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:22 PM   3
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We waited until the right moment. We had enough money that I could take a yr off, and also that I could RTW part time. We WTTC no 1 for 2 and a half years while we got ourselves into the position we could afford it and still do all the things we wanted. That's why we're WTTC no 2, until we have moved house, and once we're in and settled, we'll try then.



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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:29 PM   4
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We waited until the right moment. We had enough money that I could take a yr off, and also that I could RTW part time. We WTTC no 1 for 2 and a half years while we got ourselves into the position we could afford it and still do all the things we wanted. That's why we're WTTC no 2, until we have moved house, and once we're in and settled, we'll try then.
Well we live in a house that we intend to stay in for a good few years. I am unsure of the money issue - i mean how much is enough? I don't think I would be able to return part time due to money as i earn more than my husband but many people go back full time and seem to manage.

I also have in my mind that when we tried before we had no luck and I know that they want you to have been actively trying for two years before they look into helping with it so I don't really want to leave it too long because of that either.



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:38 PM   5
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I don't have any kids yet.

I personally don't think there is a right time, but I do think there is a better time so to speak.

I think if you can afford to look after yourselves wether that be PT work of FT and pay your way in life then I say go for it!

We are waiting as we just arnt ready yet, we want a few more hols and try to get a house in next year or so, but if we get to a apoint that we really want to try we wil just go for it in our flat!xx



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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:42 PM   6
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my OH always worries about that kind of stuff, i dont want to put off TTC much longer for health reasons but i think if we personally was to wait untill we had lots of money it would never happen for us...not that my OH believes that lol
Thank you - I think I worry more than my husband about the money issue but as you say - will we ever have it?



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:48 PM   7
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I don't have any kids yet.

I personally don't think there is a right time, but I do think there is a better time so to speak.

I think if you can afford to look after yourselves wether that be PT work of FT and pay your way in life then I say go for it!

We are waiting as we just arnt ready yet, we want a few more hols and try to get a house in next year or so, but if we get to a apoint that we really want to try we wil just go for it in our flat!xx
Well we have a few holidays lined up but was thinking that after those we might just go for it. We have been married nearly 5 years now and enjoyed lots of us time. During that time I have also worked on my career and feel that now I would get a reasonably well paid maternity leave to help support us.

We bought a house a year ago now and are very settled here with plenty of room for a child.



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 15:53 PM   8
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Go for it then!! I think there will always be fear, its a big step! Good luck.xx



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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 16:04 PM   9
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I often wonder about this as well and from everyone I've spoke to there doesn't seem to be a right time or perfect time! But if you feel you're ready go for it!!

Good luck xxx



 
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Old Jan 24th, 2011, 16:09 PM   10
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Awww, goingforit! I don't know if you remember me from when we were TTC....? I'll pop back tomorrow when I'm on my laptop rather than phone, but I saw your name and wanted to say a quick hi! x x x



 
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