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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 17:44 PM   1
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Everyone but me...why :(


Im in an inbetween, first of all. Im not TTC but I would be happy if i happened to be pregnant. It seams like everyone around me in the blink of an eye is getting pregnant but not me. I've had quite a few possible chances but always a negative sign on the tests. Its getting a little bit depressing to me and i'm starting to feel like it's impossible. Now i want to be pregnant and its disheartening to know i'm failing every time. Anyone else in the same boat?



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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 18:12 PM   2
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Aw hun, I'm sorry. I know it's so hard but try not to let yourself get down about things.

You say you've had a few possible chances where you could have gotten pregnant, do you mean times where you've not used contraception? Cos unless you actively trying and know for sure that your having sex on the right days then you wouldn't fall pregnant anyway. So don't beat yourself up that you haven't fallen pregnant on these few occasions. Chances are they weren't around ovulation for you.

Even when you do come to ttc and you have sex every day of the month there's still only a 25% chance of you (or any woman) falling pregnant within 6 months, although I hope it happens quickly for you. But my point is really don't worry about it!

I know waiting is tough and when you want something so bad it can seem that everywhere you look there's a newborn baby or a pregnant woman. Your time will come and it will be so special when it does!

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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 18:21 PM   3
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Im not ttc and the chances i could have been (or thought i was) have happened both on and off of birth control because while on it i wasnt taking them as directed because i wasnt really worried about protection (i was mainly on them to regulate periods) and even taking them all crazy i had a regular cycle. And off of it we just didnt use protection and we where okay with either outcome.


But thanks for the information and words of wisdom
**meaning -> Even when you do come to ttc and you have sex every day of the month there's still only a 25% chance of you (or any woman) falling pregnant within 6 months, although I hope it happens quickly for you. But my point is really don't worry about it!

I know waiting is tough and when you want something so bad it can seem that everywhere you look there's a newborn baby or a pregnant woman. Your time will come and it will be so special when it does!



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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 18:28 PM   4
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You're welcome, by the sounds of it you really are worrying over nothing. Especially if you were on bc (even not taking it properly), it can take some women a few months for their bodies to get back on track after being on the pill so I honestly don't think you've got a thing to worry about!

Out of interest when are you planning on ttc?

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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 18:35 PM   5
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planning on later this year but i would be happy if i was pregnant now haha
I'm one of the types where when i plan things they wont happen how i planned so i just go with the flow. sounds a little childish but it has always worked out for the best with me, so we'll see how it goes i'm ready for anything.



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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 18:58 PM   6
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I have been going through a very similar situation. I feel like I want it so bad and every time i see that sad little negative sign it crushes me a little more inside. My Fiance keeps trying to reassure me that we will get there and that if we wait we will be in a better place and be more prepared but the way I see it The heart wants what the heart wants and you cannot change it. I have tried to focus my attention elsewhere. I am redecorating my house (I have a lovely new purple bathroom lol) and starting a savings account for when we do find out baby is on it's way. I would suggest finding other ways to "prepare" yourselves. Start eating right and getting your body ready and reading up on things with your partner. Good Luck! It will happen when the time is right.



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Old Jan 25th, 2011, 20:45 PM   7
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I have the same question with you.So anxious!Good luck!



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Old Jan 26th, 2011, 12:08 PM   8
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i feel exactly the same at the moment EVERYONE i know is pregnant or has newborns, its so hard, feels like it will never happen to me, id love to have an oopies but i know my OH wouldnt be too pleased lol



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2011, 19:27 PM   9
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yea it's stressful haha my OH tells me the same stuff over and over again, maybe now isnt our time and its a sign we arent as ready as we think or something else to make me feel better but ughh and your so right darlin65 the heart does want what it wants, and my heart wants a baby soooo bad. Good luck everyone btw.



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Old Jan 27th, 2011, 11:51 AM   10
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^^^ i agree there is soooo hard



 
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