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Old Jan 28th, 2011, 05:15 AM   11
katy1310
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I was exactly the same - I think it's a huge fear of the unknown as well. For a long time, I was scared of being pregnant, (I heard too many horror stories I think!), scared of giving birth and scared in case I wouldn't be a good mum. I hadn't changed a nappy since I was 4 (when I had to change my baby brother's nappy when our granny was looking after us and she couldn't do it, lol!) and I was just so scared that I wouldn't know how to look after a baby! Oh and worried in case we wouldn't manage financially - but having a baby doesn't have to be as expensive as some people make it.

However, after we decided to just go for it and start trying, then I got pregnant, I kind of changed. I loved being pregnant and it was nothing like as scary as I expected. My midwife appointments were fine too - I was always scared about what they'd be like.

I did have a hugely scary end to the pregnancy when I got pre eclampsia at 25 weeks and ended up with an emergency c section at 27 weeks - a c section was perhaps my biggest fear of everything connected to pregnancy and childbirth!!! But even that was fine.

I soon overcame my fear of not being able to change a nappy when we had to change tiny 1lb 13oz Sophie's nappies through 2 holes in the incubator, and I had to start dressing her when she was just 4lbs.

When she came home we got used to her so fast and we've just taken her lead and we're getting on great I absolutely love being a mummy and you just kind of instinctively know what to do. When your baby holds her arms out to you and smiles a huge smile when you go to get them up in the morning it's the most amazing feeling and that makes you feel like you must be doing a good enough job!!

Good luck to you all when you start TTC. xxx



 
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Old Jan 28th, 2011, 05:35 AM   12
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Oh wow, how beautiful is your little girl! She's gorgeous! Sounds like you had a really tough start, it's encouraging to know that parents and babies can come through things like that and be fine afterwards. A friend of mine from school had her first baby at 30 weeks, but she was a good size for her age, 4lb, still very scary though.



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Old Jan 28th, 2011, 10:51 AM   13
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i think the fear of the "unknown" is alot worse than reality in most cases



 
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Old Jan 29th, 2011, 12:24 PM   14
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oooh, I think being on here has made me realise I am actually insanely broody! I'm not going to do anything about it right now, of course, as we still have the house to save up for etc (how dare you, euromillions, what do you mean I didn't win anything last night?!), but I think I may need to mention to my husband that once we're sorted I'd like to start trying sooner rather than later!

He will be up for it once we have our house, after all he was the one who asked me in front of his very 'macho' best friend, when we were talking about children in general, 'when do we get started on making babies, then?' I told him 'once we're married' and six weeks later he proposed, and 8 months after the proposal we were married, lol!

Now, does anyone fancy giving me 30k for a deposit...?



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Old Jan 29th, 2011, 15:28 PM   15
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i'll lend u 30k if u lend me 60k first



 
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