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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 12:50 PM   11
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My SIL is a great person, but in a lot of ways still just a kid. She'd have gotten all concerned if I'd approached her about needing her to give us some space to talk. Especially since we're in a small place out on a farm - giving us space would require a pretty long drive!

Also, I haven't told anyone but OH and one long distance friend about the pregnancy and miscarriage, and don't plan to, so no one around knows anything's going on. And when we do start TTC, it's not something I want to share until we're actually pregnant. All in all, just so much simpler and less stressful in the long run to wait a little bit longer to talk. :P

Anyway, SIL has headed off for home now (as have the in-laws, they were in town last night/this morning), and this morning before the in-laws came out to our place, OH said everyone should be gone soon and we'll talk tonight. Not a huge fan of having serious discussions on Sunday night, as OH goes back to work on Monday, but I'll take what I can get! *fingers crossed*

PS: Sorry, HanaLu, but what is ierno? Is it an acronym?



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 13:00 PM   12
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My SIL is a great person, but in a lot of ways still just a kid. She'd have gotten all concerned if I'd approached her about needing her to give us some space to talk. Especially since we're in a small place out on a farm - giving us space would require a pretty long drive!

Also, I haven't told anyone but OH and one long distance friend about the pregnancy and miscarriage, and don't plan to, so no one around knows anything's going on. And when we do start TTC, it's not something I want to share until we're actually pregnant. All in all, just so much simpler and less stressful in the long run to wait a little bit longer to talk. :P

Anyway, SIL has headed off for home now (as have the in-laws, they were in town last night/this morning), and this morning before the in-laws came out to our place, OH said everyone should be gone soon and we'll talk tonight. Not a huge fan of having serious discussions on Sunday night, as OH goes back to work on Monday, but I'll take what I can get! *fingers crossed*

PS: Sorry, HanaLu, but what is ierno? Is it an acronym?
I can't remember if I posted here yet or not! I've been following the post as i have this exact same problem with my OH! If i didn't reply, really sorry, i meant to! If i did, sorry im repeating myself!

I really hope talking to your OH this helps as much as possible. I'm waiting till the end of the week to have some time to chat to my OH, and I no how nerve racking it can be!



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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 13:08 PM   13
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Awh pet im sorry about your loss i know its difficult, we're all here for you.

im a little scared to bring the subject up with my OH as i dont want to scare him, i know he wont leave or anything like that but i dont want to pressure him if that makes sense, but i do want to know for my peace of mind.

i think we should both take a deep breath and just ask, whats the worst that can happen? they confirm a few years is what they're thinking?? well then at least we know and have something to work on and can give our input!!!

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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 13:26 PM   14
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Olivette, I don't envy you having to wait for a week yet! I'm just hoping something else doesn't come up today, or I'll be waiting until the end of the week right along with you. Fingers crossed for both of us! (is there a "fingers crossed" smiley that I'm just not seeing? Seems like it would be a good one to have!)

wishandwant, good point! A few years just feels like forever right now. I've never been quite this broody before! But even if it's years away, once we have it set I guess we can at least discuss it more seriously and plan together (instead of those types of conversations being awkward and always starting with "someday, if/when we have kids...") Trying not to get my hopes up toooo far so I'm not crushed if he's dead set on a long wait.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 11:06 AM   15
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We're going to TTC!

We had a long talk last night, and it was such an eye opener. OH said that he's always considered me to be the more reluctant one (which a year or so ago was probably true), and he thinks he's ready to be a daddy. We're actually on the same page, thinking we can't really be a whole lot more ready than we are now, and age-wise it's time we get a move on!

So we're starting immediately! (Or at least as immediately as possible, not 100% sure where I am in my cycle right now or if everything's back to normal... if it IS normal, I'm fertile now and OH is back to work ) I was even able to send OH off to work with some multivitamins for him to take.

Just over the moon right now!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 11:20 AM   16
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aww congrates chick best of luck x



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 12:16 PM   17
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Oh that's brilliant news! Well done for gritting your teeth and having 'the talk'. Sounds a bit like the one I had. You both skirt round the subject for so long, not wanting to freak the other one out or let other people know your private business that you end up scared of not thinking the same way! So pleased for you both. X



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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 13:01 PM   18
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Congratulations! Best of luck!

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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 14:14 PM   19
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Wonderful news!! Congratulations and best of luck ttc!!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 18:12 PM   20
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Congratualtions!!!!

me and my OH have had a bit of a discussion recently, but in the past it always ended with me in tears because it was always so uncertain.
Now after a while of not talking about it, i think hes a bit more ready, but i just couldnt work up to courage to bring it up.

After just reading all of this thread i feel a lot better about bringing it up and its made me feel more positive!!! Thanks lol

good luck!!! xoxo



 
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