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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 06:23 AM   21
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Congrats Thistledown! That's really great news. I hope it happens quickly for you both. This should be a lesson to us all not to shy away from the 'talk'! Xxx



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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 07:37 AM   22
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Congratulations., I'm glad that you two managed to have a chat and come to a decision.

I had this chat myself with OH again and it looks like April is still happening for us. ^^.



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 16:00 PM   23
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Sorry Thistledown- ierno like a really common and lazy way of sayin I don't really know around my area. I forget most of the time when I'm typing on here that I'm not just sending a qucking facebook message to my local friends! XXX



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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 16:02 PM   24
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Forgot to say CONGRATS!! XXXX



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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 18:33 PM   25
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Congrats.....Just wondering if you could give me some advice for my OH. I have talked to him a couple of time and gave hime time to think about it. He still says that he wants to wait a couple of years. I am 29 in two days and he just turned 34. I want to have at least 3 kids so I would like to get started ASAP. How can I convince him how much this means to me.

I had a miscarriage in 2004 at 19 weeks and I have been through a lot since then. I am now happily married and ready to start a family. I don't know how much longer I can wait.

Any advice would be great.



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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 22:59 PM   26
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Thanks ladies! I'm still just surprised as anything how things worked out, and how we were both ready and not aware the other was! Maybe I should sit down with OH and have serious discussions more often.

Cawley120410, do you know why your OH wants to wait? If he has reasons other than just not feeling ready, I'd say maybe try to find out what they are, and what can be done to remove those concerns.

If you have fears about how long it might take to conceive, it also might be worthwhile talking to him about that. I think a lot of men are under the impression that the 1st time you actually try to have a baby, it'll just happen immediately. Maybe if you lay out how many kids you want to have, what kind of minimum age gap you'd like, and what ages you'll be when the last one is born IF there are no problems, he might see it as a more pressing issue?



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 10:33 AM   27
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Congrats.....Just wondering if you could give me some advice for my OH. I have talked to him a couple of time and gave hime time to think about it. He still says that he wants to wait a couple of years. I am 29 in two days and he just turned 34. I want to have at least 3 kids so I would like to get started ASAP. How can I convince him how much this means to me.

I had a miscarriage in 2004 at 19 weeks and I have been through a lot since then. I am now happily married and ready to start a family. I don't know how much longer I can wait.

Any advice would be great.
Hi! Just wondering if you're on bcp or anything? My oh had been putting off ttc too. We've had one or two talks since we got married year and half ago and he just said he didn't feel ready yet. In nov I decided to stop taking bcp so that at least my system would be free of hormones etc when we did decide to try. Told him I'd no problem waiting another while if he really wanted to but that from now on the contraception was in his hands....(after all, I'd looked after it for the last ten years!!!) Think it made him realise how serious I was bout wanting a baby cos we are now in our first 2ww
Even if he does want to wait longer at least your body and your cycles will be back to normal and ready when you do ttc...
Best of luck



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 10:49 AM   28
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Good luck with the TTC hope your BFP comes quickly for you



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 11:46 AM   29
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Congrats.....Just wondering if you could give me some advice for my OH. I have talked to him a couple of time and gave hime time to think about it. He still says that he wants to wait a couple of years. I am 29 in two days and he just turned 34. I want to have at least 3 kids so I would like to get started ASAP. How can I convince him how much this means to me.

I had a miscarriage in 2004 at 19 weeks and I have been through a lot since then. I am now happily married and ready to start a family. I don't know how much longer I can wait.

Any advice would be great.
Hi! Just wondering if you're on bcp or anything? My oh had been putting off ttc too. We've had one or two talks since we got married year and half ago and he just said he didn't feel ready yet. In nov I decided to stop taking bcp so that at least my system would be free of hormones etc when we did decide to try. Told him I'd no problem waiting another while if he really wanted to but that from now on the contraception was in his hands....(after all, I'd looked after it for the last ten years!!!) Think it made him realise how serious I was bout wanting a baby cos we are now in our first 2ww
Even if he does want to wait longer at least your body and your cycles will be back to normal and ready when you do ttc...
Best of luck
Actually, I haven't been on BCP since Nov. The only reason I stayed on it that long is b/c I have PCOS and it helps to regulate the cysts. He knows how important this is to me. We have been together for almost 4 years. We both wanted to wait till we got married, which we did Dec. 4th, 2010. He does have some good points of why he wants to wait. I have 2 yrs of college left, but I know so many parents in college that have children and they do just fine. I try to convince him that it wont affect us, I will just take the semester off that I am expecting and go back the next semester. I would like to have 2 to 3 children and I know how long the process can take especially with PCOS. I am 28 and I dont want to take the risk of not having my dreams come true. After I had my miscarriage in 2004 I was so scared to try again b/c I was heartbroken. I took me a long time to get to where I am now, and I just feel like I shouldn't have to wait any longer. My OH is 34, 5 yrs older than me. You would think that he would be ready too.



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 13:13 PM   30
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Actually, I haven't been on BCP since Nov. The only reason I stayed on it that long is b/c I have PCOS and it helps to regulate the cysts. He knows how important this is to me. We have been together for almost 4 years. We both wanted to wait till we got married, which we did Dec. 4th, 2010. He does have some good points of why he wants to wait. I have 2 yrs of college left, but I know so many parents in college that have children and they do just fine. I try to convince him that it wont affect us, I will just take the semester off that I am expecting and go back the next semester. I would like to have 2 to 3 children and I know how long the process can take especially with PCOS. I am 28 and I dont want to take the risk of not having my dreams come true. After I had my miscarriage in 2004 I was so scared to try again b/c I was heartbroken. I took me a long time to get to where I am now, and I just feel like I shouldn't have to wait any longer. My OH is 34, 5 yrs older than me. You would think that he would be ready too.
Aw, Best of luck hon, I hope it all works out for you...



 
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