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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 12:03 PM   11
MissKM
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hello, i have to say the way your girlfriend is behaving sounds exactly like the way i was behaving only about a week ago. however the only reason me and my fiance are waiting is because he wants to wait till we have finished uni and are a little more financially stable and 'when he is ready'.

i got completely irrational last week to the point where i was begging my fiance for a baby...which would ultimately end in the worlds biggest argument. ive found that the hardest thing is not quite knowing when we are going to start trying...ive been told 'when he is ready' which really doesnt resolve any of my issues for wanting to be a mother sometime really soon.

i found that being on here and 'venting' to other people who have similar problems and getting advice from them really helped me to calm down and stop moaning at him about it...therefore no arguments!!

maybe its worth suggesting she come on here n have a chat she might feel just a little better for having a rant about it to someone who it will not end up in an argument with therefore taking some stress off of you. she can always pm me if she wants...im more than happy to try and help her sort out her feelings...being as they are so similar to what i was going through.

having said that i have to say that i think you definitely do have your head screwed on, and all the points you put across are ones my finace says to me...i just dont want to listen and im guessing thats somewhat how shes feels. its very hard for women to put the emotions they feel towards having a baby aside...cause many of us have a real problem ignoring that maternal instinct. alot of talking and some compromise may have to be done...the list of 'to dos' is brilliant, its gives you a goal to work towards which would set you in a good position to bring a baby into the world.

i just quickly want to note that ive just came off cerazette and have had all and more of the symptoms of pregnancy that you have just pointed out...ive done 4 tests all of which are negative so im off to the doctors tomorrow. just to say that it could be more than likely that coming off cerazette is making her feel like this.

ive just realised how long this is...sorry about that!!
hope this helps a little, dont hesitate to ask if you need any more advice. xx



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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 14:32 PM   12
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I would defo suggest, maybe this year - could you look to move in together? Then when you're living together maybe to find a job, save some money, get healthy, so maybe in a years time re-assess? When you're both in a happy place, and have a little money in the bank, you might find that you're ready - or you might find that she changes her mind and decides she want a holiday. You can't have a baby if both of you don't want it. And I think for her to expect you to just do what she wants is wrong. She probably thinks waiting is you getting your own way, but if you're not ready you can't be pressured into it! If she is on the pill and you don't want babies - remember to use some other protection!



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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 20:29 PM   13
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Thanks again for all the responses, they're very much appreciated. Just an update on the situation, she stopped taking Cerazette on Friday and has had the frequent urination (apologies if TMI), cramps, pretty much the signs of pregnancy but she hasn't had a period in the whole 10 weeks or so of being on Cerazette and the Doctor said that it's more than likely that it's her body adjusting back after stopping it. Today she has been in a far better mood, actually seems to be more like her happy, bouncy self which I am glad to see again. She's said she feels like she's 'coming on' but ten times worse so I'm assuming it's coming off this pill that's doing this and nothing else. We've got some open university prospectus', talked about moving in together maybe this year or next year, talked about getting ourselves back on track and getting ourselves out and about. I'm just glad she's feeling better now and I'm sure it was this Cerazette that was maybe causing her depression to worsen, the Doctor did say that Cerazette may have been lessening the effect of her citalopram so maybe that cause the depression to worsen. Anyway, thankyou very much for all the help and responses I received, they were all very much appreciated



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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 19:06 PM   14
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