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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 11:51 AM   11
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i think the girls above are right, pride will stop him saying sorry, men say some stupid things in the heat of the moment, maybe tell him how much it hurt u him saying that...... x

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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 17:33 PM   12
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My hubby has said similar things in the past during big arguements, the problem is us women think too much, he has probably forgotten he even said it and didnt realise it cut so deep. My guess is he didnt mean it but men say childish things when they know they are losing an argument to try and "get even" because lets face it men never grow up. I found the more I protested about the things he said the more he would do them in the next argument as he knew that it got to me. So I have found that ignoring these comments worked a treat as he has "got over hiself" and doesnt do it anymore. I think they just like to get one over on us hun. like I said they can be sooooo childish!

I wouldnt worry too much. x

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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 17:37 PM   13
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Im pretty sure he didnt mean it, he'll show you he's sorry before he tells you thats just how guys are. He just needs a little time and a little space. Cheer up we're all here for you

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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 18:02 PM   14
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awww hun, that sounds just like my bf when he quit last year....
seems like most men are similar in what they say during arguements...tho im a big softy and hate arguing so i always end up in tears!! tho when i aruge back (like he tells me too!!) im in the wrong for biting back at him.

i could never say anything hurtful to him, wheter its in an arguement or not, but i dont understand how they can do it to us

hopefully everything will sort itself out for you soon


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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 14:39 PM   15
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Did you manage to sort things out?

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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 21:33 PM   16
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I think we've all said something we didn't mean in the heat of anger. I know it's hard because the negative comments are the ones that will stick in your mind. I hope you guys made up and are okay now.

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 12:39 PM   17
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I'm sure he didn't mean it. I've had that said and much more several times in arguments with my hubby... It's always said by him in the heat of the moment.. but he always apologizes within the next hour about what he says. We've been together (and WANT to be together) for the past 6 years, married for almost 5. He's a very stressed out guy.. he has no secure job, being in Pharmacy school right now. And I'm not the easiest to get along with (I'm a dreamer and live in my own fantasy world sometimes -- hearts/flowers etc).

I've asked him NUMEROUS times to THINK BEFORE YOU SAY ANYTHING! I told him things he says he can apologize for, but will never be 'unsaid'... Now I've gotten to the point when he's getting riled up, I let him be upset but keep injecting, 'be careful what you say.. don't say anything you don't mean..' It makes him think and stop...

I hope that helped you. I think you'll be just fine.

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 12:59 PM   18
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thanks ladies for all your support....... we met at lunch time yesterday & it degenerated into another full scale argument!!! later though we managed to make up... he kinda apologised & we talked through all our issues as calmly as we could - lots of them ... and i told him exactly how comments like that make me feel. told him am not willing to go through that again over something so trivial.. he's soooo intense sometimes!

I second what fabz said - why can they say such mean things but we cant!? men are from mars - too true!


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