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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 16:49 PM   1
rjsmam
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Looks like i wont graduate.. argument with OH


looks like i won't move to TTC after all... after a minor argument this morning, my husband started it up again tonight & told me i was the biggest mistake of his life. he is 2wks into stopping smoking so is v crouchy, but not sure i can forgive his comment.. nor does he show any remorse..... sorry i know this is off topic.. rather embarrassed to discuss it with friends as we only 5months married



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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 17:28 PM   2
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I'm sure this was very hard to hear but he probably didn't mean it and his pride is preventing him from apologising! I'm sorry you've had to go through this xxx



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 17:34 PM   3
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thank you - i hope it is his pride, in the mean time i'm taking a wide berth of him...... i don't understand how men can be so cruel sometimes x



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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 17:36 PM   4
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Aww... I'd be devastated too if my OH said something like that, regardless how much stress he was under.

Hope he comes to his senses, realizes how thoughtless that was, and begs for forgiveness soon.



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 18:26 PM   5
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i got a similar comment from my OH last nigh, something along the lines of sometimes i think i chose the wrong girl, it hurt but we were fighting at the time so i know he didn't mean it. I'm sure your OH didn't mean it hun



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 18:56 PM   6
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awww, poor thing! im sorry hun. i would be in tears, im a big sensitive :/

men are stupid sometimes *almost always* and don't know what they are saying. before we lived together my OH had to drive 40 mins to see me and one night in an argument he told me i was a waste of gas :/ we've been together 2 years now.

he apologized short after, but all men are different



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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 20:49 PM   7
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sorry to hear about that! Hopefully it was one of those moments where did not think before he spoke. He should not have said that. I'm sure he really didn't mean it; maybe he does feel remorseful but doesn't know what to do - or the gravety of what he said hasn't sunken in.



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2011, 21:55 PM   8
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That was a very nasty thing to say. But I just wanted to tell you, as a person who has giving up smoking, it is one of the most stressful experiences you can go through.
Not trying to excuse him, but if you think that comment was out of character for him then I would definitely put it down to him quitting.

I quit for real when I found out I was pregnant, I found it so easy once I had the right motivation.
But me and OH had been trying to quit for nearly a year before that and each time we tried we always had the most horrible arguments. We actually broke up a couple of times. Most of these arguments weren't even rational!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 04:52 AM   9
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Thank you ladies, you all so kind... i know how stressful giving up smoking is & that itís tough for him (although i guess i will never fully understand not having been a smoker)

Heís just become so argumentative, even before giving up smoking, and if i stand up for myself he then shouts & accuses me of starting the argument! I donít know where to go from here... spent the eve in spare room, travelled to work together but not said a single word.



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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 08:17 AM   10
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That was pretty mean =( But maybe he didn't mean it. My OH was also a pretty big grouch when he quit smoking. We fought a lot at the time, and we're not the type of couple to argue very much as he hates arguing.



 
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