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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 04:59 AM   1
notjustyet
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Should I be waiting?


Me and OH recently decided to TTC (we were WTT then had an oops in December, then we were a little disappointed when we didn't conceive so started TTC - now on month 2)

We've been together 9 years, getting married next year, have our own place with a little garden and a spare room for LO, have a well trained little puppy, both have good jobs...

BUT my car just broke down this morning, when recovery came he said the engine has a hole in it, so we need a new engine (costing around 700-800) but the car's probably not even worth that, especially as I paid 430 on it last month to replace the clutch and 200 odd last September at its MOT. Now we have zero in savings having just paid off a holiday and it will take us about a year to have enough for a decent car.

My question is, do I need a car with a LO? Should I wait until I can get a new one? But that means I'd have to put TTC on hold. I'm just so annoyed. I wish I was rich then none of this would be a problem.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 05:24 AM   2
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Aw I'm sorry you're having this dilemma! Cars are more trouble than they're worth!

I guess the 'need' for a car would depend where you live and how easy it is to get around without one. I don't drive at all so I dont have a car and we live in quite a rural area where buses aren't very frequent but we have the local high street which I walk to with Summer in the pram. However my husband does drive and so has a family car which I must say we'd be lost without. There's no way we could do without it, visiting family etc just wouldn't be possible, trips to the doctors etc. In fact we just realised how much we depend on a car this weekend when the clutch went in the car and we weren't sure if our cover included a courtesy car - thank god it did!

If you think you could get out and about and do all the things you'd need to do with a baby in tow, without a car then there's no reason for you to stop trying!

Good luck!

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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 05:29 AM   3
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Oh and I should add I never attempt the bus with Summer and the pram, it's a nightmare! I do find myself going stircrazy stuck inside the house, especially when the weathers bad and we can't walk anywhere.

I plan to pass my driving test within the next 2 months and get a car for myself straight away!

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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 06:09 AM   4
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Thank you. I live in a city centre right by the train station so I can continue to get to and from work, could easily get home to visit the family (although getting the train with a pram and a baby and a bag and the dog might be a nightmare) we live within walking distance of the hospital and the doctors so that would be ok. But I still think I'd need it. Hubby to be has a 2 seater van that I could use (he is setting up on his own so has this as well as the vehicle his work currently provides him) so potentially if one of us needed to drive the baby somewhere we could, we would just have to leave the other one at home!

It's do-able, just annoying to be without a car. To hell with it, car or no car, I'm ready for a baby now and if we find we really need one, we can always get one on finance as a last resort!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 06:09 AM   5
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Driving isent a neccessity its a luxuary. Nether of us drive and we manage fine. My mum normaly takes us to do our food shopping but we have done it in a taxi just fine.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 06:15 AM   6
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I'm sure it would be fine, we could always have the shopping delivered or I could walk or send OH. I've just not been without a car since I was about 19, so it's a bit scary!

I'm also classed as an essential car user at work. Not sure they'd fire me over not having one but I don't think it's something I'd get away with long term. If I waited until after maternity leave to replace the car then I'd have enough money for something decent (or at least a decent deposit for it), depending on how long I took off.

It couldn't have happened at a worse time really! I want to scream!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 06:35 AM   7
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It sounds like you'd be fine. Like you say, your oh has a van if there was an emergency but you live in the city anyway so getting around wouldn't be an issue and everything you'd need is close to hand!

I guess it could be a shock to the system to go from having that freedom and having a car to all of a sudden not having it but it doesn't seem in anyway a reason for you to not be trying!

And you never know, something may turn up anyway, a friend or family member getting rid of an old car or something. You may not end up having to wait all that long before you can get another!

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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 08:14 AM   8
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After reading all of this, it sounds like you'd manage perfectly well. I say go for it =)
As for the shock of being without a car after having one so long, things will work themselves out.



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 08:54 AM   9
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I think this morning I was just in a stress, it just seems like I've had nothing but trouble with that car for the past year.

OH came home gave me a massive hug and put the kettle on, he always makes me feel better. He'll make such a good dad, hopefully in 9 months time!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2011, 11:30 AM   10
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would agree with the girls above sounds like ud manage fine without a car and who knows u could have saved enough money for a new car before u get a



 
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