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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 19:41 PM   1
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Hey Guys!

We are not trying until September but already half our friends are guessing that we may be trying soon for a baby.

I desperately want to keep it all a secret mainly because I don't want the extra pressure plus I really like the idea of surprising everyone once we (hopefully) are expecting.

Is everyone else trying to keep the fact that you are trying a secret and if so how are you managing it?


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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 20:57 PM   2
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I'm not trying to announce it...but it's not a secret I guess. We have a 19 month old baby and we just got, it's not hard to figure it out! haha. Hubby and I were going to go away last weekend (couldn't as we got snowed in) and 2 people said 'are you guys baby making?' lol. We're not yet, but obviously people are waiting!

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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 20:58 PM   3
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I cant keep a secret! Everybody knows my hubby and I want another baby..when..that's the secret I guess. I am hoping when we do get pregnant we will wait to tell people so we can surprise them in some way..but they all know we are thinking about adding to the family soon.

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 05:01 AM   4
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We get lots of comments about when we plan to start trying too. It's so annoying. We got married last summer and everyone just expects us to be pregnant or at least trying.

We've said since the wedding whenever anyone asks that we plan to just enjoy our first year of marriage before thinking about children. The problem is that our anniversary is fast approaching and I have no idea how i'll answer the question from then. We plan to start trying very soon but I really don't want anyone to know we're officially trying - it just feels too personal to share that information.

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 05:12 AM   5
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People have asking since we got married in October and although originally we had decided to start TTC on our honeymoon OH changed his mind and we had told our close friends so now having to tell them not until after completed exams!
But other people as soon as they find out you a newly married expect you to start trying for a baby!

I don't want to tell anyone about our BFP until after our 12 week scan (other than our parents) just in case something goes wrong etc plus it will be something that only we will know and will be special and I don't want to share it straight away

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 06:25 AM   6
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everyone pretty much knows we want a baby - have been married for almost 6 years

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 07:20 AM   7
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I like to keep it a secret too I think it's nice to have it just between you and OH and it does make it all less stressful as people won't keep asking if you are pregnant yet. To be honest though I don't think anything will stop people, I think a lot of people enjoy askign when you are going to be having babies. When we got married people started asking straight away when we would be trying and then even the day after having my DD people were asking when we were having the next one. You really can't win

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 07:31 AM   8
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Yeah we'll be trying for number 2 in May and although it's no secret we want another baby, I don't think anyone is expecting us to try quite so soon, I think they're expecting it a bit later in the year. I won't be telling anybody our plans and we willkeep it a secret until I'm at least 3 months gone again!


Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 09:02 AM   9
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When me and OH do start TTC, i personally wouldnt want anyone to know, but whether he would want to tell his parents or not i dont know.

and when we get a BFP after TTC (fingers crossed!) i would like to keep it between us for a few weeks, then tell the folks, then after the all clear starting spreading the news!! that way we would have a few weeks of having our own little secret and being in our own little bubble of lol

whether it works out like that or life always has a way of throwing everything up in the air for us!!!

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Old Feb 2nd, 2011, 09:34 AM   10
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A few friends and my SILS have kind of guessed.. so I didn't correct them when they mentioned it.. I just told them 'probably in the next year or so' But when we do start trying Im not going to mention it to a soul until I hear that little heartbeat on the scan

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