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Old Feb 6th, 2011, 08:37 AM   1
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Has anyone considered ttc on your own?


I don't mean attempting it without the father's permission, but by sperm donation. For example maybe by someone you know and trust. Given circumstances were right would you do it?. I've never been the type of person who would want to marry or dreamnt of my future partner. Children were always more important. I was always very broody. Then I met my ex, and things changed a little. I wanted him and babies with him. After a year we started to ntnp , and my broodiness turned stronger , becoming depressive after months of trying every fortnight( it was long distance). Then he started to go off the idea saying that he didn't feel ready. So I accepted it but was upset. Just after Christmas he split up with me. I feel like he gave me hope and ripped it right away from me. He was my first partner and the only person I trusted completely. I want a child now. I feel like it is the right time for me and I am a independant person with the best possible supportive family. My mother miscarried my older brother, had me and then suffered horrible endometriosis cysts that made her never catch when she was ntnp with my dad for eighteen years till she had to have a hysterectomy at 39. I don't want to leave it long as i've always had issues with painful heavy periods which were sometimes very long or short cycles, and I am terrified if I leave it too long that will be me. Even my parents are broody for me! Lol , everytime they walk past a baby shop or hold a little one they beg me for grandchildren. Did anyone try to conceive independantly , and have any success with it?. I know it wouldn't be easy so don't think I am considering this with eyes closed.



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2011, 10:10 AM   2
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Hi, Haven't considered this myself but I think that would be a very brave thing to do. Personally I really would feel like I'd need the support of a partner to share the ups and downs.
But you say that your family are very supportive, so maybe that would work well. I would worry though that your family are putting too much pressure on you to have a child, and stressing you out!

How old are you? if you don't mind me asking.I'm 27 and I really feel the old body clock ticking! eep!



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Old Feb 6th, 2011, 10:34 AM   3
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I don't mean attempting it without the father's permission, but by sperm donation. For example maybe by someone you know and trust. Given circumstances were right would you do it?. I've never been the type of person who would want to marry or dreamnt of my future partner. Children were always more important. I was always very broody. Then I met my ex, and things changed a little. I wanted him and babies with him. After a year we started to ntnp , and my broodiness turned stronger , becoming depressive after months of trying every fortnight( it was long distance). Then he started to go off the idea saying that he didn't feel ready. So I accepted it but was upset. Just after Christmas he split up with me. I feel like he gave me hope and ripped it right away from me. He was my first partner and the only person I trusted completely. I want a child now. I feel like it is the right time for me and I am a independant person with the best possible supportive family. My mother miscarried my older brother, had me and then suffered horrible endometriosis cysts that made her never catch when she was ntnp with my dad for eighteen years till she had to have a hysterectomy at 39. I don't want to leave it long as i've always had issues with painful heavy periods which were sometimes very long or short cycles, and I am terrified if I leave it too long that will be me. Even my parents are broody for me! Lol , everytime they walk past a baby shop or hold a little one they beg me for grandchildren. Did anyone try to conceive independantly , and have any success with it?. I know it wouldn't be easy so don't think I am considering this with eyes closed.



Ive thought of the idea hhaha n im married 22yrs old n its weird you saying that because ive alway said to the hubby if he didnt want children (frm wen we 1st met) that i would do it alone n i personally think its a great idea at the end of the day youve treid it was a man n he let u down so why put your self n a baby through that when you can have the option of doing it alone ( lucky for me hubby wants a big family like me) so if i was you id deffo go for it gooood luck



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2011, 13:29 PM   4
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Several of us are and will be. If you like in the Assisted Conception forum, you'll probably find many more single mom's by choice or those like me who are entering a co-parenting situation. My best friend and I will be raising our children together and we are not romantically involved.



 
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Old Feb 7th, 2011, 06:53 AM   5
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Aw see Lulu that is exactly what I would like to do. I did check out assisted conception but it was only briefly. Ill have another look , thanks. Mrs Davies , thank you for all the positive feedback, It has really helped hearing encouragement.



 
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Old Feb 7th, 2011, 07:21 AM   6
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I decided last year after various failed relationships and just LIFE that has failed to bring me my "traditional family" dream to become a Single Mom by Choice. I am now 38 and have my first appointment with the fertility specialist on May 9. I will be doing this via IUI with donor sperm.

I think if you have your crap together and you are ready to become a mom, you don't need to force your agenda onto another person. Just do it yourself. I'm hoping Mr.Right will still come along, but he'll come along and be open to both me and my little one a little later down the road. In the meantime, I love my life right now and am so excited to have a child!

If you need to talk, I'm here. Best of luck!



 
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