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Old Feb 7th, 2011, 15:58 PM   1
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I don't think I can do it!


I don't think I can wait! The need I have for another baby is taking over my life! I can't stop thinking about it. It feels like every day someone else tells me there expecting an dit's a little more salt added to an open wound! I know how much pleasure a baby brings, and I need to feel this again. How can I get through this? I don;t even know when we can TTC again as I am waiting for my house to sell. When TTC my dd I knew when were gonna try, so I had a count down of sorts, but this is open ended at the mo. I really want it to be now



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Old Feb 7th, 2011, 16:26 PM   2
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When I got to that point where I just couldnt function I was so unhappy and all I could think about was baby baby baby I sat down with OH and spoke to him. Explained I wasnt going to in anyway prevent it. Was up to him if he wanted to prevent in anyway from there on in. Have be 110 % happier since then. Sometimes just getting it off your chest helps to have a little chat - any date at all can be an idea in mind

Hugs hugs, it really is awful waiting at all when you feel like that



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Old Feb 7th, 2011, 16:41 PM   3
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I agree talk to you oh and try to get a rough date in mind then it will give u something to count down to and work Towards. It will make a huge difference and might not seem so far off then



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 00:48 AM   4
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Hiya, agreed the only thing you can do is sit him down and push for at least a rough timeline, else your life really is on hold. Are you going to try once you sell, or once you move in or will you need to wait until your settled in etc. X



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Old Feb 10th, 2011, 05:37 AM   5
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I know EXACTLY what you mean, and tbh it is one of the worst feelings in the world. It really does take over your life. I sat my OH down and he really did put across he wasn't ready, so I've had to put it to the back of my mind (which hasn't been easy..). I made the decision though to not renew my injection when it runs out in March, purely for the reason that I want to TTC.. OH has been supportive with it, but I did put across to him though that I'm going to play no further part in preventing conceiving. If he wants to prevent, it's down to him..!

It's really hard though. Suddenly found myself in the situation where my body has decided it's ready, but the timing just isn't right. So for me, it's something I'm having to learn to live with. So no real 'advice' to give you. As said above, all I can think of is maybe sitting your OH down and trying to express to him how you feel? I know how hard having these types of talks can be.

You mentioned selling your house, what are the plans after you've sold it? Maybe start to try when you've moved in to your new place? Or once you've settled in? Setting a rough time frame would definitely make things so much easier, as you said, with your first you new when you were going to try so had something to count down too.

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Old Feb 10th, 2011, 06:01 AM   6
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aw hun, i know its really hard. i am at this stage right now.
i know exactly how you feel. i agree with the girls... talk to your OH.
my husband and i had the CHAT, and he said... '' i have noticed hun, we can move the date forward a month if this makes you happy, i want another baby too, but you going on and on about babies puts too much pressure on me ''.
our son is only just, 8 months and i am at the point where my husband blanks out ANY baby talk whatsoever.
it wont break us, as weve been like this before 2 times over but he says i get broodier the more babies we have.
you cant help the way you feel. i am here if you wanna rant/chat xxx i have to wait till june as i got some weight to shift, i am doing it for the baby. xxx



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2011, 12:33 PM   7
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i totally agree with the girls above, talk with ur OH a rough date means so much when ur waiting for something so badly. Thats is all i want off my OH is a date saying when we can try, its frustrating not knowing when that can happen. good luck x



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2011, 14:34 PM   8
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Have you thought about looking up the average time it takes for a house to sell in your area? or asking an estate agent how long it could take? that way you could use that time line as a count down for the time being.



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Old Feb 10th, 2011, 14:47 PM   9
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Hello ladies xx

I have spoken to dh about it, and he just says soon! Which really doesn't help! We get the keys to our new house tomorrow. We can just about afford to get the work done on it so it will be all ready to move into when our little house is sold. So really I just need to sell my house, and we're good to go!

Work give me an excellent maternity package, so I would be on full pay for 6 months, and there's the actual pregnancy - there's another 9, and I probably wouldn't get pregnant straight away so there's (just for example) another 3 months - so that's 18 months! And I don't want to TTC until April (my dd has her birthday on Xmas Eve, so I really can't afford another baby in December! Lol!)So there's another couple of months. In my head I can't actually see the problem with TTC, but my dh is very sensible when it comes to money, which is probably making it harder for me to accept! I do talk about it alot, and he is really patient, but I think he switches off and says yes dear in all the right places! Lol!



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