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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 04:42 AM   1
Heidi_Lewis
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Giving birth nerves


As soon as my next period comes, me and my oh will be trying for our first baby, and however excited we are, and however prepared I feel, there's still one silly little worry that plays on my mind from time to time.
my oh is my first sexual partner, we've been together since we were teenagers, and I love him with all my heart and just know he's the one, but I do not look my age (25) as I am 5 ft 5, weigh 8 stone, and I'm a size 8. I can't wait to have a massive bump and put some weight on, but I am so nervous about the birth! I'm sure it's possible for any woman to give bith naturally, but I've got such a tiny frame that I'm worried I literally won't be able to push a baby out!!! sorry if that's too personal, but I have no other female friends in "real life" to talk about it. I just feel that I'm too small ..... down there!!
Does anyone else feel the same? Or have any encouraging words?! Or even you or someone you know had a similar issue?
I'm sure when the time comes I won't give a care in the world, but it's just an issue which I think I should address whilst it's on my mind xx



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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 04:50 AM   2
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Hi, I am exactly the same as you!!

I'm 27 this year but people think im about 16 because im tiny frame and look young. Im a size 6 and 5 foot 3. I don't like it when people treat me as if im a lot younger than i am!

Im TTC from September and can't wait ot have a bump and show it off! I worry about giving birth but mainly because of the pain rather than not being able to. My mother is small and she has had 3 children naturally. Our bodies are designed to give birth so ?I wouldn't worry about your size. If you have difficulties then they would give you a C-section.

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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 04:55 AM   3
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MrsBroodyPant, thank you for your reply! That reassures me that I'm not going slightly crazy on my own, and that there are other people who have the same worry!
Your height and size is so close to mine, people treat me like a child too- last summer I got ID'd in The Range for GLITTER GLUE!! How embarassing!!

My hips just don't seem big enough, and my stomach just doesnt seem capable enough of stretching round a baby. I'm also worried about the pain side as I have quite a low pain threshold, but many people have said you just do what you've got to do. I'd quite like a natural birth, but I still am adamant that my little lady part will NOT fit a baby through!!!

Good luck to you MrsBroodyPant, I hope everything goes well xx



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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 05:30 AM   4
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dont worry hun, you can do it - that what girls are for.

When I concieved my first little boy I was a size 8-10 and 5'4" and I managed fine, my body stretched and grew accordingly and I gave birth to a staggering 9 and a half pound baby boy, all naturally - not even a suck on gas and air!

I have managed natural childbirth twice and hoping for a third soon, and believe me when I say it isnt as bad as everyone makes out! its hurts - yes but nothing you cant handle if you go into it with the right mindset.

everyone is different but believe me your body will cope and as that is what it is made to do. to be honest it did not do my body any good in the long run - needless to say I am no longer a size 8-10 and am running at a 14-16 but I am now knocking 30 and have 2 kids to show for it but not a second goes by that I would change all that for my skinnier, leaner body.



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 05:52 AM   5
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Yeah, I get asked for I.D all the time and usually the person asking is younger than me! I run my own business (dance school) and sometimes feel that new people who join don't take me seriously enough because they think im only young. They tell their children to "pay the girl" grrrr and I think, im a married woman not a girl!!!!

I think that when I am pregnant I might get funny looks off people who think im a pregnant teenager!!

Don't worry about giving birth though, hopefully because we are small, our babies will be small too!! fingers crossed! :-)
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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 06:12 AM   6
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You'll be fine, honestly. I had the exact same worries, I'm now 28 but was 27 when I fell pregnant, I'm also a tiny size 6 and only 5, 1" so I always get comments when people find out how old I am.
The further I got along in my pregnancy the more terrified of it I was. My mums also tiny and ended up needing c sections with me and my brother so I always had in my mind 'what if I'm the same'. I had an enormous bump and people commented that it was bigger than me etc.
When it came to my labour, it was very traumatic but nothing to do with my size, I went into labour naturally etc and unfortunately things for me just didn't progress, my body wasn't doing what it needed to and after being induced etc Summer just wasn't going anywhere so they took me down for an emergency c section but the reason given was failure to progress and nothing at all to do with my small frame. It's quite rare for a woman to be 'too small' to give birth as it's what our bodies were designed to do.

But you will be fine, it's natural to have anxieties about it all, but when the time comes you'll surprise yourself how well you cope. Out of all my friends and anyone I know personally I'm the only one that had trouble in labour and needed a c section, and 2 of my friends are as small if not smaller than me, one of them had a 9lb 8oz baby too so it just goes to show that in this case size isn't everything! Lol!

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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 06:19 AM   7
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Im 5 ft 2 normally a size 8 and when i was pregnant with my first i went down to a size 6 as i has hyperemesis, its amazing how your body copes and adjusts to having a baby inside i never had a massive bump and i remember my mil really upsetting me when i was near the end as she said the baby was going to be 5lb as she was huge with both of hers and neither of them were over 7lb. When they held up my baby after i just given birth my first words were hes not small , in fact he turned out to be 7lb 13 by no means a small baby and i gave birth naturally (just gas and air) and i wouldnt have torn if the student midwife hadnt pulled him the wrong way as his shoulders came out but never mind the 2nd degree tear wasnt that bad. A plus point was that beacuse i wasnt that big i still felt comfortable at the end and didnt really have any problems sleeping etc.

I was scared of birth too and reading the stories on the homebirth website (im not suggesting you should have a homebirth) really helped me to understand labour better and i had a lovely birth really calm and relaxed so much so that the midwives said have a homebirth when i have another. Good luck TTC!



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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 07:34 AM   8
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Hi! I'm only 5' 2" and look very young for my age. I'm also a little bit worried that people will treat me like a child if I am lucky enough to get pregnant and perhaps treat me differently that they would someone the same age who looked it. IYKWIM?

As for being too small, I'm a firm believer in our bodies know what they're doing and it will know what size baby it will be able to handle and do what it needs to do. That's what I'm hoping anyway! I'm more worried about coping with the pain and dealing with the aftermath.



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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 08:07 AM   9
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Well, I'm glad someone else asked it. haha. I get strange looks now anyways, being 5' 9" and a (small) size 4. People want to think I young because I'm skinny but I'm so tall is throws them off. Then they see I have a wedding band on and they get all confused. So I am constantly telling people, "Yes, I really am married. I'm 21 and I own my own home."

But getting back to the topic at hand. I was a bit worried about the ah, "size" to. But with so many people with good stories I think I should just relax. It is what our bodies are made for after all.



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Old Feb 9th, 2011, 09:52 AM   10
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Wow, thank you all sooo much for the reassurance!! It genuinely has helped ease my confidence. For the women who have given birth, you are simply fabulous! For those still wtc/ttc, we'll get there one day!! I'm glad I asked because I feel better about the whole "I dont think I can fit a baby out" situation!! My pain threshold is quite low, and the pain is something I'm very conscious of, but I just know it'll be the best thing I'll ever do!
Thank you all for your replies xx



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