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Old Feb 11th, 2011, 07:57 AM   1
ferens06
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How did you bring up that you want to ttc? Im 22 and my OH is 23, we're living together with two cats and full time jobs!

I've been broody for about 6 or more months now but find it hard to say so because I don't want to worry him. He's great with kids and he does say things about kids from time to time, but I get the impression he thinks he isnt earning enough at the moment (im the main earner)



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Old Feb 11th, 2011, 09:06 AM   2
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Originally I brought it up a couple of years ago after a close friend had her baby. He did the whole 'startled deer' look and then came around slowly. It took my OH about a year to get fully on board (he was in agreement before but I just knew that he wasn't quite there mentally, even though he said that he was) - now he is just as bad as me and really can't wait until TTC. In fact he'd be happy to go now, if it wasn't for me planning the time so that I'd have less than a year of my course left even if we fell pregnant straightaway.
I would advise dropping it into general conversation, as you might find that he bolts slightly if you sit him down to do it - go from there. xxx



 
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Old Feb 11th, 2011, 10:49 AM   3
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Ive brought it up with my OH but hes still at the stage where he thinks im nuts and we should wait years till we TTC lol



 
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Old Feb 11th, 2011, 15:16 PM   4
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Thanks ladies. I dropped it into conversation tonight. I purposely read out a conversation on Facebook between me and my sister (shes pregnant) and particularly the bit about wanting a baby but not thinking my boyfriend would be happy. He didn't say anything but he stared at me when I said it hahahah.



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Old Feb 11th, 2011, 15:17 PM   5
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How old are you both? If you don't mind me asking of course!!



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Old Feb 12th, 2011, 05:06 AM   6
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i think that the best time is when you're having a giggle and cuddle together.
say... ''do you ever want babies, hun?''
this should start the conversation off and then just say... ''everywhere i look i see babies, i think i am ready. if you are".
thats how i roll. xxx

oh... i am 24 yo xxx



 
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Old Feb 12th, 2011, 05:22 AM   7
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I'm at the same stage as odd_socks at the moment. My OH still thinks I'm rather crazy and just isn't ready.

It's well known around these parts that my recent 'talk' with my OH didn't go so well, and I was quite bad at starting the 'talk', so am probably not the best one to give advice!
But when I have brought it up, like cinnamum said, I've always found it best to talk to my OH about important things when we're both as relaxed as possible. This is usually at night time in bed when we're watching a movie or just chilling in front of the TV.

My OH works away a lot and we have very little time together, so in the days leading up to him coming home, I will say to him 'Babe, can we make time to chat when your home?', he knows now that I'm usually going to bring up the baby thing, but before he'd ask what I wanted to chat about and I'd tell him that I'd like to talk about our future and where he sees us heading.

Once you've got over the initial hurdle, it's usually not so bad! It's a very hard convocation to have. Me and my OH are extremely open about absolutely everything, we talk non stop and have never had an communication problems, but this one subject is just a hard one, it's life changing I guess!

I really hope you manage to corner your OH and try to explain to him how your feeling, and how it's affecting your life and ability to function half normally! Good luck and keep us updated.



 
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Old Feb 12th, 2011, 12:27 PM   8
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Quote:
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How old are you both? If you don't mind me asking of course!!
im almost 26



 
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Old Feb 12th, 2011, 13:12 PM   9
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We both knew straight away after our MC x



 
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Old Feb 12th, 2011, 13:37 PM   10
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I was a bit naughty and pretended my period was late, got a test (obvs negative) and told him that really I was kind of gutted I wasnt pregnant. he admitted he was too and I came off the pill the next day xx



 
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